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Where Did She Go? 

8/12/2013

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Hello Lovies!
I'm so sorry I've been away. Our life has been a bit of a whirl wind over the past few months. As some of you know, I have moved. I was homeless (for lack of a better term) for about 3 weeks. All I can say is Thank God for my Mamma & Step Dad! They let us invade their space, (little man T, our Cat, Clients and All). Anyway we are now in the new house, so now I have a brand new office! Hooray! Not that I minded seeing y'all in my kitchen, but now we can be a bit more comfortable. When I have the room set up a bit more I'll take some pictures.
And as many of you know I am very pregnant. Our second little one is due to arrive anytime now. I was scheduled to work right up until about a week before my due date, but some complications have arisen. Unfortunately, I am pretty much on bed rest at this point. I really feel terrible about not seeing my scheduled clients. I'll do the best I can to see them as soon as I can. My doctor says, 'Your Work is not Life or Death, people can wait'. This made me laugh so much, because my work IS about life and death, just not in the context that I'm saving it. I'm just working with its parameters, especially the death part. LOL. I don't think my Doctor has a clue about what I do. If he did he'd realize why I want a home birth so much! I have been in and out of the hospital quite a bit, and for the most part spirit has respected my wishes to be left alone. Every once in a while I get one who is terribly pushy, but I politely explain that my focus is elsewhere and that I just can't/don't understand at the moment. Which, in fact, is very true. My connection to the other side has almost been put on hold. I've had a lot of trouble connecting to the other side for other people lately. I'm sure spirit is as concerned about me as everyone else and decided to let me rest. One of my care givers said 'That makes sense to me. You seem like the type of person who would work right up to the point that you are in labor.' LOL, she's right, I am, or would have been. :o) Anyway, Yesterday I was able to speak at the Divine Light Spiritual Foundation.  I'm not exactly sure why spirit brought me the lecture that it did, but I have learned to trust and I gave what I was given. So below is the lecture that I gave..... Let me know your thoughts.
Please know Lovies, even though I'm not 'working' at the moment, it doesn't mean I'm not around. If you have a question about the other side or about spirit (in general), I'm still here. I'm sure I always will be in one capacity or another. lol. I'll keep you posted on our little one too.... they should be here soon. Love & Light to you all, Truly
Gossip, Judgment and the law of Compassion.
August 10, 2013 Truly Dubourdieu  
The poet Rumi once wrote: ‘Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about.’   Definition of GOSSIP a:  a person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts about others b: rumor or report of an intimate nature   Definition of JUDGMENT a: a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion b: the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing   Definition of COMPASSION a: sympathetic consciousness of others' distress together with a desire to alleviate it

Lately I have heard, or I should say, tried not to hear a lot of Gossip.  I keep reminding myself of the old adage of ‘If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all.’ It is so true. As humans we all struggle with this. Some of the most spiritual people I know still struggle with this.

How do you know what to believe and what not to believe?  What it really comes down to is WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE?

Last time I checked, even God loved me unconditionally. He allowed me to make my own path, live my own lessons, and make my own mistakes.  It’s not good when others hurt us or the people we love, but being a true spiritualist, we look at our 7 principles, and remember the last 3 principles:

*Personal Responsibility
*Compensation and Retribution here and hereafter for all the good and evil deeds done here on earth.
*Eternal Progress open to every human soul that wills to tread it by the path of eternal good.

In my private practice I counsel a lot of people. Most times we get hung up on what others think of us. One of my favorite books to suggest they read is ‘the 4 agreements’ by Don Miguel Ruiz.  He has a wonderful way of explaining how to look at this subject.

“Gossip is black magic at its very worst because it is pure poison. We learned how to gossip by agreement. When we were children, we heard the adults around us gossiping all the time, openly giving their opinions about other people. The even had opinions about people they didn’t even know.

Gossip has become the main form of communication in human society. It has become the way we feel close to each other, because it makes us feel better to see someone else feel as badly as we do.

Using the analogy of the human mind as a computer, gossip can be compared to a computer virus. A computer virus is a piece of computer language written in the same language all the other codes are written in, but with a harmful intent. This code is inserted into the program of your computer when you least expect it & most of the time without your awareness. After this code has been introduced, your computer doesn’t work quite right, or it doesn’t function at all because the codes get so mixed up with so many conflicting messages that it stops producing good results.

Human gossip works the same way. For example, you find out about a new group with new classes, new friends and new teachers. You are very excited and have been looking forward to it for a long time. On the first day of class you run into someone who took the class before who tells you ‘Oh that teacher was such a pompous jerk! He didn’t know what he was talking about and was a complete idiot, so watch out.”

You are immediately imprinted with the word and the emotional code the person had when saying this, but what you are not aware of is his or her motivation in telling you. This person could be angry for failing the class or simply making an assumption based on fears and prejudices, but because you have learned to ingest information like a child, some part of your believes the gossip and you go onto the class. As the teacher speaks, you feel the poison come up inside you and you don’t realize you are seeing the teacher through the eyes of the person who gave you that gossip. Then, you start talking to other people in the class about this, and they see the teacher in the say way: a Jerk and an Idiot. You really hate the class and soon you decide to drop out. You blame the teacher but it is gossip that is to blame.

One little piece of misinformation can break down communication between people, causing every person it touches to become infected and contagious to others. Imagine every single time others gossip to you, they insert a computer virus into your mind causing you to think a little less clearly every time. Then imagine that in an effort to clean up your own confusion and get some relief from the poison, you gossip and spread these viruses to someone else too.”

We are all children in the eyes of God. We are all learning, so who are we to say something negative or positive about another. Our opinion is simply that. Our belief about something or someone. We are not right or wrong. We could never understand the full story or know what lead to that person being or acting in a certain way. We are not to judge another, for whatever lead them to do the things they have done, may prove the same outcome for us. Judgment is a human invention- that God is not here to judge us, but to provide us the means to learn from our errors so that we can grow and evolve.

The key to dissipating Gossip is Compassion. The Law of Compassion is very powerful. It can destroy or empower others. In the Book ‘the Laws of Spirit’ Dan Millman shares this about Compassion:

The law of Compassion is not arbitrary or conditional. We know deeply troubled and destructive people exist in this world, and that disturbed people tend to disturb others. Compassion doesn’t mean letting such people walk over you and continue their destructive behaviors; some individuals need to be separated from society. But one can have compassion for evil without succumbing to it. In battle you can feel compassion toward your adversaries even when fighting to the death. The law of compassion directs you to act out of love and understanding instead of hatred or ignorance. To do so requires a leap to a larger perspective- to the realization that you live in a universe as just as it is mysterious. This depth of understanding flows from an understanding that we are all one. When you find this understanding you realize you do not have friends, you do not have enemies, all you really have is teachers.

The Law of Compassion reminds us that it is better to let compassion wash negative thoughts away with love and understanding than to believe or resist them.”

He goes on to make the comment, When you hear something negative of another, think about what you would feel if that person was dead.  Say you are in a heated argument with someone, and all of a sudden they clutch their chest,  utter a small cry, and fall dead at your feet. Where would your anger and resentment be at that moment?  Death is a great equalizer. It can help us change our perspective in a matter of moments.

One of the most published Spiritualist leaders of our past was a man by the name of H. Gordon Burroughs. He wrote many books, one called ‘Becoming a Spiritualist’. In this book he writes ‘The Spiritualist who really wishes to lead a spiritual life must strive at all times to see and think only of the higher and more beautiful things that he sees around and about him. He must never permit his thoughts to dwell upon the lower things of life, and must close the door tightly upon such emotions as jealousy, lewdness, and vulgarity.  ‘As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he’ and the thoughts of today become the acts of tomorrow. He realize that by keeping his thoughts upon only the highest things, he becomes possessed of a pure heart; that by developing every talent he is quickening his spiritual perceptions, which can only produce better conditions for all, as he leaves an influence for good with all whom he comes in contact, and which can have no other result than to bring the human race nearer to perfection.

The true spiritualist must learn the meaning of prayer in the truest sense of the word. He must, in the innermost depths of his hear, in silence and all sincerity, pray with the master who taught us to say: ‘May we not criticize, condemn, or censure one act of any human being, but project almighty love, for they like ourselves, are the children of the same Father, seeking to find him according to the light they now have.

The real spiritualist will at all times place the welfare of the cause he represents and the church to which he belongs before his own personal feelings. He realizes that in cooperation there is strength and he will make every effort to cement together as strongly as possible all the branches of the organization to which he belongs, even though he does not always agree with the personal opinions of some of the members. He does not allow his personal likes or dislikes to bias his opinions in any way. He is ever ready to lend a helping hand to those who are working to build a cause that will bring humanity in closer touch with the father and thus bring happiness to the world.’

In closing, I’d like to leave you with a story of a Catholic priest who made calls regularly in the home of a young widow. Someone stared passing a rumor. Some busybody became suspicious. Two ladies in the community ‘put two and two together’ and began to gossip. Suddenly the young widow died and the community was informed that she had been secretly sick with cancer. Only her priest knew about it. He came regularly to pray for her and help her. But someone with a dirty mind had started talking. The two ladies who were responsible for the gossip came to the priest and said ‘Father we are truly sorry. Why didn’t you tell us?’ The priest answered, ‘All right, if you’re sorry, take this feather pillow, to the top of the hill, and let the feathers fly were the wind will carry them.” And they did. When they came back with their empty pillowcase they said, ‘Father, we have done this. Now will you forgive us?’ The priest answered, ‘Not until you go out and pick up every feather and put them all back in the sack and bring it back to me.” They said, ‘But Father, that is impossible! The wind has blown the feathers to the four corners.’  To which he replied, ‘So it is with your words.’

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Personal Responsibility & Reclaiming Your Power

1/4/2012

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HAPPY NEW YEAR! So sorry its been so long Lovies. I've been a very busy lady thanks to you. No, really, Thank You!

Today's blog inspiration comes from a lecture I gave back in November.... I hope you enjoy it.

    This past year (2010) I offended one of my friends on Facebook by making the statement 'Everything in life is a Choice.' Believe me, it was not my intention, but with out offending her, I never would have dug deeper into that statement.  I really believed it to be a true and accurate statement, but to really express it properly; I needed to dig further..... yes, I'm talking about FREE WILL. But before we get into that, let's go back to the beginning. 
    You are spirit. You are in heaven before you are born. You say to the God of Your Understanding or to the Universe, I want to grow & evolve. You know the best way to learn, is to experience for yourself....  So you stand in front of a giant black board (or white board) that is covered with words like: Integrity, Honesty, Humility, Loss, Unconditional Love, Forgiveness, Pain, Respect, Trust, Acceptance..... etc.  Some people pick 15, other people pick 45, but the average person picks out approximately 25 words.  Those 25 words are the focus of 25 lessons that you want to learn while spending time on earth. Then you look at the candidates for your mother (seeing the major events in her life), and you pick one. From her partners, you pick your father (seeing the major events in his life also).  Then you are born! You start growing up and all the while, you're learning the lessons.  You are living your life, and God or the Universe hands you a scenario. How you act, and react is completely up to you (free will), and therefore you may or may not learn the lesson that was intended. You see, we are in charge of WHAT we learn, we just don't get to pick HOW we learn it. That is up to God or the Universe to decide.
    Now, you ask, 'what happens if you didn't learn the lesson?'. Good question! Stop here, just a moment. Can you think of anything in your life right now that is REPEATING? It may not be exactly the same, but the main lesson seems similar? Or, is it worst than the last time? It's harder this time, isn't it? Right..... So you repeat the lessons until you get it.... and sometimes it takes lifetimes (yes plural) to get it. You can be repeating something for more than one lifetime, several in fact (but that's another story) and each time the lesson gets harder and harder. The whole point of life is the lessons. We want to evolve and better ourselves, and the best way to do that is to experience the lessons. It really is all about the experiences.
    So that brings me to the law of Choices. It all begins with what we chose before we got here. We no longer have any control over what we picked, but we do have control over how we react or act.  All we can do now is choose to make the best of it... choose to grow, to love, to connect, to give. Can you GROW into your current lessons? or will you turn your back, become bitter and resentful? Choosing to grow is not easy, we all know this, but it is necessary for survival. It comes down to Personal Responsibility. "We are responsible for our own progression or the unfolding of self.  When we can accept that how we act or react to any given situation or experience determines the outcome of that experience, we have taken the first step toward accepting personal responsibility. No one can force us, or make us do anything against our will. we have been given free will to accept or reject any of life's experiences that come our way. When we understand this principle fully, we stop looking for external sources to take the responsibility for anything that has happened or will happen to us. When we start acting instead of reacting to situations or experiences, than we have resumed responsibility for our lives and can start directing it according to our own desires. Regardless of the situations in which we find ourselves, whether they are of our own creation or outside circumstances which have drawn us into them, how they affect us becomes our responsibility. We must take this sense of responsibility into all areas of our lives, for the same rule applies, whether it involves family, community or universal situations. In the end, it will not matter what others think of us that will count, but what we think of ourselves. " (The Seven Principles of Spiritualism).

    Now, what about WHAT you picked to learn...... I've had many people ask me 'Why did I choose this?' or "what is the point of this lesson?" . I may be able to give you a direction on what it could be, but really, only you know the answer. You need to search your soul and ask it those questions. As they say, 'God doesn't answer the How or the Why, he just answers the Who, and When, and the answer is almost always YOU & NOW.'
    When I tell this to someone who is a parent, they often struggle with it. Being a parent myself, I know why. We (parents) tend to want to take away pain or grief from our children. What we don't realize is that this child, just like us, CHOSE these lessons, and by taking away the pain, grief or personal responsibility, we are taking away their lesson. What happens when we don't learn the lesson? Right, we REPEAT it! (heavy, right?). So, as much as you may feel like you are helping and protecting your child, spiritually, you may be stunting their growth! Just like us they need to experience to learn and grow.
    When we have learned all that we wish to learn, we can choose to go home. Some of you have heard me say that we have 5 (or so) opportunities to 'go home'. It is up to us when we decide to leave this earth. But the point being, maybe the person only had a 2 or 3 lessons to learn, and therefore decided to 'go home', what we would consider, early.  On the other hand, you may have fulfilled all of the lessons you intended to learn, and now you're just enjoying. Even death is a choice. (this again, is a topic for another day).
    Anyway, the long and the short of it is..... Everything in Life is a Choice. It's the perfect opportunity to take responsibility for where you are now and to passionately participate with intention, focusing on being in the present!

Thanks for reading. Love & Light,
Truly

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On the edge of the known universe where I wanted to be

7/10/2011

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Oh, so much to say.... & I have no idea where to begin!
Ah, ok, so for those of you who are suffering with a bit of the depression bug, I did say to keep an eye out because I'd post a mantra for you on my blog.... "I now go beyond other people's fears and limitations. I am the creator of my life". Depression is about not having the courage to live the life that you WANT, not the life you are handed. In almost every reading I end up speaking about Personal Responsibility. It is one of the 7 principles that I live by, and so very important. There is a sense of freedom when you take responsibility for all of your actions and reactions.  When you can accept that you made that decision, knowing full well that there are consequences (whether good or bad, positive or negative) to each choice, you'll find that you almost ALWAYS feel good about your decision. Other people may not, but life really amounts to what YOU want & how you want to experience it.
This brings me to another very important point, "No one can make you feel anything, unless you allow it".  Let me explain: people cannot force feelings on you. Only you can control your feelings. You can choose to feel a certain way. You can choose to feel hurt. You can choose to feel betrayed. You can choose to feel abused, neglected or battered. No one can MAKE you feel this way. You can also choose to learn the lesson and move on. You can choose to understand. You can choose to accept your role in the situation and change it. You OWN your feelings. So Own Them.
So, approximately 8 weeks ago, I started saying a mantra on a daily basis. If you are a Facebook friend of mine, you'll have seen it a few times as my status. "The Universe Supports Me In All That I Do." This mantra has made a HUGE difference in my life. Honestly. It has helped me to manifest all of the things I want. Well most.... lol. I wanted to be busier in my life (yes, really). I wanted my business to take off. I wanted to be available to my son. I wanted to help my husband. I wanted to have more fun. I wanted to gain more financial freedom. I say this mantra at least once a day. My life has changed in so many ways. The point of my telling you this is: If you don't make your desires known, how can anyone ever help you fulfill them? If you do not ask for help, you will never receive it. I tell clients all the time to put what you want, what you desire, out to the universe (or to God). Prayer is Talking to God, Meditation is Listening to God. Only when we specifically ask for what we want, can our desires be filled.

Lastly, here are a few quotes that have been floating around my head lately (I'm sure they'll be helpful to someone):

Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.
— Robert F. Bennett

We need to teach the next generation of children from Day One that they are responsible for their lives. Mankind's greatest gift, also its greatest curse, is that we have free choice. We can make our choices built from love or from fear.
— Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

You cannot afford to wait for perfect conditions. Goal setting is often a matter of balancing timing against available resources. Opportunities are easily lost while waiting for perfect conditions.
— Gary Ryan Blair (Mind Munchies)

Thank You for taking the time to read my thoughts.
Love & Light,
Truly xo
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