Wow! What an incredible journey the last month has been. I am so thankful for the gifts received and expressed from spirit.

My last blog post was about a man who’s sister in law had a reading with me, and as he was about to pass away in the hospital yet he came through. It is literally the next post down titled ‘the weight of it all’.  On a recent Friday morning, I had the pleasure with speaking with Jim again. His wife Karen came to see me. Her sister told her the incredible story of what had transpired and she just had to come meet me. She drove a little over 3 hours to come for a 9 am appointment! One of the reasons why I have an assistant do all of my bookings is because I do not want to know anything about my clients prior to sitting with them! This case was no exception. When Karen sat with me I treated her like every other reading. Explained how I work¸ what to expect and then started. She did not tell me who she was, or who she was looking for.  I connected with a few spirits in the room and to be honest, I can’t remember it all now. Her husband was the 1st person in the room. He came in just as he had before with a hospital gown, major breathing issues, blood issue, hovering above the body (not coherent) before passing. He explained that he had not been well for a while, but had no intention of passing away. He honestly did not know he was going until it was too late (I later found out that he had his DNR removed).   When I described this man to her she knew exactly who he was. She had read all my blogs, information and was not sure that he would come though. Her sister assured her that he would be here.  It had been 5 long weeks and she shed tears of joy knowing that he was alright. I myself was shocked that he was able to manifest that fast. Our communication was a bit trying at times, but none the less he got his messages across to her.  She has a journey ahead of her, but I am certain that she knows she is not alone. It was a real blessing to be able to connect these two people again. Thank you Karen. Many Blessings to you and a speedy recovery to your Jim.

I have always had a fascination with funerals. The daughter of a minister & medium, I guess you could see why. When I became a minister earlier this year, I knew that I would be seeing more funerals in my future. I did not know how interesting they would be. A previous client contacted me on a Wednesday night. Her father had passed and her family wanted to have a ‘celebration of life’. I was saddened to hear of his passing as I knew that she had lost her mother some time ago. She told me the celebration was on Sunday, so we had to meet asap. When she and her brothers came in, I could feel the weight of their loss. It had been a few days since he had passed, and although they knew he was not well with a terminal prognosis, we are never really ready for the passing of a parent. We talked in lengths about Doug. We laughed and cried as they told me wonderful stories of the man that loved them right to the end; the man they called Poppa.  I took quite a few hours trying to figure out what stories I should share. The day came and I really wasn’t sure what to expect. You see, usually when I attend funerals, I see the deceased. I see them standing with their families and I see them comforting their friends. I see them sending the love that we who are here left in the physical realm miss so much. Doug was no different. I arrived at the hall a few minutes early in hopes that I’d be able to see him right away. I should have thought about it. I know it takes a tremendous amount of energy for them to manifest, and there wasn’t quite enough there yet. About half an hour in, there he was…. Hovering over where the food should have been. You see Doug was about feeding people, one of his very admirable traits. His family and friends had started gathering around and there was no food yet. When I told my client this, she laughed so hard. She said that it was just like him and then went off to tell her brothers what I was seeing. Later in the celebration he asked me where his jacket was. Puzzled, I asked the family, and they figured out that he was looking for a new jacket. All the members of the soccer club he belonged to had new red jackets, and he did not have one! What a giggle we had over that. The last time I saw Doug was when he stood behind his sister as she said a few words to the crowd about the brother that she missed so very much.  The out pour of love was beautiful. Although this family was missing the 2 people who brought them into existence, they were surrounded by love & affection from their family & friends. Thank you Michelle & Family for allowing me to help you celebrate such a wonderful man! Blessings upon you all.

Now, for the Piece de résistance as they say. This past Saturday I was Officiating a wedding for two of the nicest, well suited people I have ever met. Kelli had been a work colleague of my husbands from a few years back. I had seen her as a client in 2010, and she had been back twice since then. The last time bringing her lovely fiancé Matt.  They told me of their desire to be wed and then surprised me by asking if I would help them. I was ecstatic. The chemistry and love the two of these people exude was beautiful. We talked a few times over what they wanted and how I could help them achieve the ceremony they wanted. One of the things that I knew about this couple was their losses. Both had lost parents. Luckily for us, on their last visit with me, BOTH their mothers came in. I was thankful for their help, and they were thankful for the confirmation and acceptance of one another’s life partner by their mothers.  Fast forward to Saturday!  I completely forgot that the wedding was to take place in the Distillery District of Toronto. This is an incredibly old and spiritually active part of town. Busy was an understatement. On first arrival I was a bit frazzled, but I was able to get grounded fairly quickly. The guests were gathering in the gallery and the groom was anxiously waiting his first look at the bride.  When she walked in the energy became so intense. One of the things I like to do when performing a wedding ceremony is to stand in the crowd. You see the ceremony has very little to do with me, its all about the couple, so they should be the focal point. As I took my place in the crowd, I became teary. I could feel each mother beside me. I also became aware of a male (I still do not know who he is). I was able to work through the energy and carry on with the ceremony. It was a beautiful full circle moment. Not wanting to distract the happy couple from their friends and family in the physical, I decided to hang on to the information and try to find a time later on to tell them what I felt. Luckily my husband was able to take a few photos of not only the ceremony but also the speeches at the reception. I was able to ‘show’ them where their parents where during both. In that last meeting, their mothers told me the colour of dresses they would be wearing to the wedding. The bride's mother was in Green, and the groom's mother in Pink. The Blue & Red orbs are other male spirits who were present, but I was not able to identify them.  I was able to create a photo of where I could feel or see their presences. The newly weds left directly for their honeymoon so I have not had a chance to connect with them yet, but I did send them the information via Text Message. Isn’t technology grand! I have loaded them here for you to see…. The 1st is the original photo, and the 2nd shows where I felt the energies…. See how I was directed to one side in the 1st photo, and how 2 spirits were on that one side…. the energy was very intense. Anyway, I just wanted you to see what or how I feel. Kelli & Matt, thank your for allowing me to help you on your special day. The love & gratitude you expressed for one another could last nothing short of an eternity. Many blessings to you and your families.

To all of you who have allowed me to serve you, your families and God, Thank you. I am blessed and honoured to help in any way I can. With that being said, this minister, medium, and momma is tired! Not only did I host an event on Friday, taught a workshop Saturday morning, with the wedding in the evening, but both my boys have come down with a cold. Hibernation here we come! Sending love & light out to all of you. Xo Truly

Hello lovies! Sorry it's been so long. I've had my hands full, literally. Lol. Graham arrived the 1st of September, & does not like being put down. (What new baby does?lol) he has been a real blessing. His birth story is an interesting one.....

I started having contractions around 3 am. I paced & danced across the floor to cope. Around 4 am, I woke my hubby up & asked him to time the contractions while I was in the shower (water helps me big time). So into the shower I climbed, ready to let the warm water beat down on my back. I think I was in for 10 minutes or so when I heard 'Truly, call your midwives. It's time'. I grabbed the wall in shock, my pour husband thought I was having a contraction. All I could think was, 'could it be? Was it really him?'. I then heard 'well I can't very well come in the shower with you & you need to get your arse in gear & get to the hospital. He's coming.' I broke out laughing histerically. My pour hubby, I really wish he could hear what I hear. The reason why I was laughing was because I was hearing my dad for the first time in over 10 years & he was being a cheeky bugger (where I get it from I'm sure). He was there when I needed him most. You see, I've always been able to 'see' my dad after he crossed, just not hear him. I chalked it up to it being too raw or emotionally overwhelming for me. You see most mediums, can't do for themselves. We too have to find a medium to connect with our own loved ones. When I explained to Kyle who it was & why I was laughing he immediately got on the phone with the midwives & started getting ready. I had Tom, my 1st little guy (incidentally named after my dad), at home. It was a beautiful birth which I hoped to repeat. Complications prevented me from having my home birth so I was told I MUST go to the hospital. Normally, I'm not one to argue when it comes to our safety but I had some huge reservations. Hospitals are like hot spots for mediums. There is a tremendous amount of metaphysical activity in & around them. Just think of all the people who go there to pass away. Anyway my worries were eased a bit as now I knew my dad would be there to protect me while I was giving birth. When I arrived at the hospital I wasn't able to focus much (6am). I had planned to use hypnobirthing for pain management like I did with Tom, but the spirits kept me too distracted. They were a talkative bunch & I had to remind them I couldn't help them at this exact moment & that they would have to wait. By 9 am I was given extra hormones & laughing gas for the pain. Dad had them lining up at the door, each one waiting to tell me their story. My dad was a police officer, so he was always good at crowd control, lol. At 12 noon, Graham finally arrived. I could hear my Dads words of encouragement & congratulations in my ears. My wishes to be left alone (by Other spirits) was honored for the next hour. When all the commotion was over (baby testing, getting dressed, etc) there they were,at the door, waiting for me. I listened as best I could & helped those I could. It was not easy. I was exhausted, but I knew I had to try. I was released by 2 pm & headed home with my new baby.

Since then, I have gone back to the hospital to try to help the others. It is very difficult as the family they want to connect with are not usually there anymore & I can't get enough information to go looking for them. It's become a habit of mine to surround our local hospital with love & light on almost a nightly basis. I encourage those spirits to cross over. Reminding them that they have more free will once they have crossed than staying here.

Since the arrival of Graham, I have heard my dad once more. But I have not seen him. I don't understand why, or the reasoning behind it. All I know is that it was absolutely awesome to hear that old familiar voice, telling me how proud of me he was & how much he loved me.

Well lovies I hate to love ya & leave ya but its 3:30 am & Graham is looking for mummy. Lol. Thanks for reading. I've got 2 more blog topics ready to go in my head & will hopefully get them out sooner than later.

Love & Light, Truly

I've had many clients ask me this question, usually preceded by, 'I know this may be a stupid question but, ......."

Well Lovies, there is no such thing as a stupid question. ;o)

Now, I know losing someone close to you can be very difficult. I suggest that if there hasn't been at least 3 months since they have passed, that you wait to contact them because:

1. This person has been up-rooted from the body & life they are accustomed too. As you can imagine, it would take some adjusting to the changes that have happened from the physical to the spiritual world. The physical world and the spiritual world have different 'rules'. For example, a decade here in our time, is like a blink to them.

2. Depending on the circumstances of their demise, they may not have completely descended yet.  Its kind of complicated, but they may still be sticking around the earth to help you and other loved ones move forward. Three months is usually the time when our grief seems to lesson, and they are able to start their journey through the different dimensions.

3. If they have descended, they may still be in what I call 'Transition Time'. This is a period of time where the person who has passed away is focused on the reviewing of their life & may not be able to communicate well or at all.

4. If you are looking to hear from a specific person, waiting for a sign from them is very important. When you receive a sign from them, you'll know that they are ready to communicate, and that the chances of them being present for your reading would be much more likely. Ideally, this is the best way to know when you should book time with the medium you feel drawn to.

I suggest a minimum of 3 months time because in most cases, they are not ready to communicate before that time. Having said that "time" is not the best indicator, but "indisputable signs" they want to communicate with you is. What are indisputable signs? They come be coming to you in your dreams or in your everyday life you may see constant signs/reminders that are out of the ordinary. You're always welcome to book and try, but I'd like you to get the best connection possible.  I hope this makes sense to you, and I'd be delighted to answer any questions you may have about it.

In the mean time, please keep talking to this person. People on the other side hear us when we talk to them! So talk to them as though they can hear you. This will help them to move forward on their journey and give them energy. It will also comfort them as much as it will comfort you.

I hope this helps answer a few of those lingering questions. As I say, there are no stupid questions. As always, I send love & light to you and your loved ones, no matter what world we are in.

xo Truly

Hello Lovies! Happy Holidays to you. 

As I'm sure it's been a busy end of year in your house the same goes here. My family and I have been on the run for at least 2 months now. I typically work 6 days a week, but have 4 in a row off this week so I thought I'd celebrate with a new blog. :)

As some of you know I have a little guy (Thomas, T or Sir) who is about 2. He's a whole lot of fun and we are so lucky to have him. No doubt he will be a very gifted Medium if he so chooses to persue his gifts. Last week I had to show him how to ask spirit to leave. I've see T play with spirit (my dad, my husbands dad, even my step grandma Marg), but I've never seen him upset by spirit. It was the 1st evening I had been home in a while. I was busy preparing for company the next day when T came running in the kitchen. He was crying and immediately grabbed my leg. I bent down to comfort him and see what the matter was. I honestly thought he hit his head or pinched a finger or something to that effect. I was taken back when he said to me 'bad guy mummy, bad guy'. That's strange I thought. I started trying to remember the last time I cleared the house (about 3 days before). I hugged T and asked him if he would show me. Brave little solider that he is took me by my hand and lead me to our hall way. He pointed up, close to the ceiling and sure enough we had an unexpected guest. It was a lower level vibration (recently deceased spirit) who was looking for a way back into the light. I keep my home very protected as a rule and was in shock that they were able to get in. I bent down and T wrapped his arms around my neck still nervous. I told the spirit it was not welcome here and it was not ok that it was scaring my son. I asked it why it was here? It went on to tell me that it had recently crossed and was too scared to go into the light then, but now couldn't even find the light. While it was wandering, looking for the light, it saw my light. I guess even though I don't have a neon sign in the physical, I do in the spiritual lol. With T still around my neck I picked him up and stood. "Now T watch" I said. "We are going to help send them home where they belong." He nodded and seemed to calm down a bit. With that I started a prayer. I asked God, the Angels and my Spirit guides to protect us and help me open a portal to the other side to let this lost soul in. I asked Arc Angel Micheal to come and show it the way home. My hall way became extremely bright for 6 pm in the end of December. The spirit, thankfully did not come in much past the front door, and now there was a big beautiful portal filled with light between us (think of a black hole in space, but filled with light). It thanked me, apologized for scaring T and intruding. It gently passed through the light and was gone. I prayed again that it would have safe passage and that we could close the portal now. The portal began to shrink until it just dissapeared, like a speck of dust. I again thanked God, the Angels and my Spirit guides for helping me and for keeping us safe. I also asked them to re-secure my home so that I would not have anymore unannounced guests. I looked down at T who was still hanging on to my neck. He smiled at me and said 'bad guy gone". He gave me a kiss on the cheek and wriggled till I put him down. Off to play as his cars were waiting. You would have never known there was a 'bad guy' to begin with. 

Sending a spirit home is all about intention. Ask for protection. When you ask God, the Angels and your guides to help they can help you do almost anything. Including helping a soul go home. 

Anyway that's just another day in the life of a Medium. Or as my girlfriend Siobhan says its #MediumProblems.
Well lovies, thanks for reading and all the best to you and yours in the new year. 

Love & Light,
Truly

Hi Lovies.....My apologies for not writing, some of you have kept me rather busy these days. lol. ;o)

So recently a friend of mine, who incidentally has very little knowledge about what I do, saw a Saturday Night Live Episode that had a  Parody about the Long Island Medium. Intrigued, he started looking for info on her, & came across this link. 

Long Island Medium on David Letterman Show

He sent me the link and asked me if this lady was real, and my thoughts on it.....

I have not actually seen an episode of her show, but from what I do know of her, she is real. lol. Also what she says about 'summoning' or calling in spirits of people who have passed (from this clip), is also very true.  One of the questions I'm frequently asked is "I want to talk to __________ (my mother, my partner, my friend, etc....). Can you do that?". My answer is always, 'Sure, if they come.... if not I can ask about them, where they are, or what they are doing, or why they haven't come.'

  We often seem to forget that not only does Spirit have FREE WILL, but they may be busy too. Just because we have died, doesn't mean we are dead! lol. Our life, our lessons, continue on in the afterlife. We keep growing. That is one of the most comforting things I know to be true about the after life..... that we are busy, that it doesn't end here and we still have things to do.

When my clients want to speak with someone in particular, I tell them to think of the person. I say to start talking to that person, and send them love.  We  all vibrate, and depending on where we are, we just vibrate at different frequencies (hence why I'm able to do what I do). To understand that better, I suggest you research the Natural Laws of Vibration (I'll write a blog about it soon). Reminding the person that has passed that we still need them, or love them usually helps to bring them forward when I connect to the other side. Most spirits who have completely crossed over, have the free will to check in with their loved ones whenever they want. That's why some of you will often 'suddenly' or 'out of the blue' think of someone. To be honest its not 'sudden' or 'out of the blue' at all.  That person is probably right there with you, in your space, in your energy, letting you know that they are there. At some level, you've picked up their vibration, & hence why your thinking of them.

Now, since I'm already talking about Teresa Caputo, I'd like to clear something up. I have been told that on her show, she approaches people out of the blue, and gives them messages from others who have passed away (Again, I've never actually seen this show). People ask me all the time if I do this out in public. My answer is for the most part, is NO. People are almost always shocked and taken back by that response. Let me explain; First of all, I do not walk around looking for spirit all day. I have learned to turn my 'gift' off and on when needed. Secondly, approaching a complete stranger is an invasion of personal privacy (and we have strict laws about this in Canada.). Thirdly, you can put someone into an emotional tailspin by approaching them by surprise with information like that. Put yourself in their shoes, some crazy lady who claims to talk to dead people comes up out of the blue, telling you that a loved one wants to say something to you, through them........ yeah, right! lol.

Now as I said, for the most part I do not approach a complete stranger with information from their loved ones. But of course, the universe likes to tests us, so when I am approached by a spirit (someone who has passed away) to go and talk to someone who is very much alive and in my presence, I make the spirit work for it. lol. I tell the spirit that they need to have the (alive) person come & talk to me. They can come and talk to me about absolutely anything, I don't care what the subject, but that if they can get them to talk to me, I'll find a way to pass on their messages. Here is a great story in reference to this such thing...... (I've told some of you this story in short version)

I used to love to shop at the No Frills on Simcoe St because it always had the freshest produce in town (believe me, I'm a produce snob). Anyway, I like the store, but the neighborhood is older, and with that usually comes an influx of spirit. This was no exception.  I was constantly approached by spirit to go and talk to someone while I was shopping for my weekly groceries. If  I had Thomas with me, I usually just said no. I love my son very much, and don't ever want him to feel uncomfortable or neglected because of my work. Whenever I had the leisure to shop alone (you parent hear me on that),  I always said to the spirit, 'I'm not working right now, but if you can find a way to get them to come and acknowledge me, I'll pass your message on.'  One day, back in the spring, Thomas was about 16 months old and we were shopping. It was after 9 am, and the store was fairly quiet.  I was standing at the end of the produce section of the store, and I had a spirit approach me. His name was 'Robert, but she called me Bobby', he was an older gentleman. He was well dressed and very polite. He asked me to go and talk to a lady (or the 'she' from earlier) that was about 3 rows over. She was also an older lady, who was well dressed. She was looking through the pears. Now, normally as I say, I just refuse, but Bobby was adamant. He pleaded with me that he really needed her to know 'she was ok'. I looked at him, and said, 'let me ask my son'. Now, my son is gifted in his own right, and me being so caught up with this spirit, didn't realize Thomas already was aware of him.  I simply asked Thomas 'can Mummy talk to that lady, Sir?' (Sir is our nickname for Thomas.) as I looked in her direction. He smiled and I felt pretty confident that he knew exactly what was going on.  I then said to Bobby, "Ok if you can get her to come and say anything to me, I'll do it, if not, your on your own.", still not really wanting to 'work'.  Bobby left us alone at that point to continue our shopping. We mosy'd down a few isles with no sight of the lady from the produce isle or Bobby.  I was in the canned vegetables isle when my darling son knocked quite a few cans of corn off the shelf. I was laughing & shaking my head, as I started picking them up when I noticed and older feminine hand handing me a a can.  To my surprise, it was the lady from the produce section. She handed me the can with a smile on her face, and said 'My daughter used to do that to me all the time. How old is he? " I smiled back at her thinking, he did it, Bobby got her here..... I'd better keep up my end of the bargain. 'Thank you very much, he's 2. His name is Thomas." Who incidentally, was grinning from ear to ear.... 'My name is Truly." I offered.  'Nice to meet you Truly, I'm Isabel.' She extended her hand again. I, of course shook it. 'Isabel, this may seem like an odd question, but do you know what a Medium is?' She responded,  'No, I can't say that I do.' looking at me a bit perplexed. 'May I share with you?'. 'Yes'. 'A medium is someone who connects with people who have passed away to give their loved ones and family messages from the other side. I am a medium..... (she nods), I was in the produce section earlier and I was approached by a gentleman who says he goes by the name of Bobby, well actually Robert, but apparently you called him Bobby. (at this point the color drained from Isabel's face, and I was worried that she would faint.) He's here, now, standing beside me and wants me to tell you that he has a big smile on his face & he says 'I'm ok, and don't worry, she's fine. She's been showing me around like a tour guide'. Isabel stood there with her hand over her mouth for what seemed like an eternity, and then all of a sudden came the tears. I scrambled to find a tissue in Thomas's diaper bag (who incidentally is still smiling). She put her hand on my arm and said 'You have no idea how important it was for me to hear that. Bobby is my husband and the girl he's referring to is our daughter." Now I was in shock...... "What you don't know, is that tomorrow is the anniversary of Bobby's death. Our daughter died at the age of 5, and I don't think I've ever forgiven myself for not being there for her. At least now I know they are together." Now I was crying, Thomas was still smiling of course, nodding away, talking to Bobby..... lol. What a kid. Isabel hugged me and thanked me for the message. She told me "I had been looking for a sign from him, and I'm so very relieved to know that they are both Ok. ". All I could muster was 'Your welcome.'  She patted Thomas's head, and started walking down the rest of the isle. Thomas looked up at me as if to say, 'move along, the show's over'.  I shook my head and carried on with my shopping. I did not run into Isabel again that day, or any day since.  I'm glad Bobby didn't give up. I'm glad he found a way to get her to come talk to me. I'm glad that my little guy was patient enough to sit through all that. But mostly I'm glad I was able to do that for all of them. Isabel, Bobby and their daughter.

Anyways, as I say the universe tests us, and Spirit has much more power than we give them credit for. With that note, I think I'm off to bed.  I have so many other stories like this, and hopefully one day I'll be able to share them with you.  Thanks for reading lovies.

Love & Light,
Truly

Hi Lovies,
I hope you all are well and with good spirits (lol).
Recently I have come across a few people who are trying to break the ties that bind, so to speak. Every person is different, and so is every situation. More and more I'm finding that we are all feeling the need to let go of people and relationships that are not serving any purpose. The only challenge with this is that there is almost always some sort of emotional tie that keeps us hanging on. There is a way to lessen the emotional attachment, so that you can move on with your life.  I don't remember who told me this, or where I may have read it, but I need to share this with you. If / when I do, I will certainly give credit where it is due. This is not my technique, but I recognize how powerful and truly needed it is.

Cutting the Cords
We are all energy. We have energy centers within the body called chakras. One of the chakras is at the belly button, precisely where the soul is anchored to the body.  When you were conceived, you had a umbilical cord that ran from your belly button to your mothers placenta (life sac).  This cord kept you alive, kept you connected and nourished you with energy, blood, and nutrients. After you are born, this physical cord is cut, but the spiritual/metaphysical cord remained.  This is where you connect with all people. This is where the spirit connects with other spirits.

So, for every connection we make, a silver cord comes from your belly button and extends out to the other person's belly button (very similar to the connection you had with your mother). The stronger the bond or tie between you, the more cords..... for example:

Spouse, Partners, Parents, Children, Siblings = 3 Cords
Good friends, Best Friends, Cousins, Some Co-Workers = 2 Cords
Acquaintances = 1 Cord

Make sense?

So, when we understand that we are metaphysically tied together, it makes much more sense to release the tie, so that the emotional/spiritual aspect can let it go.

To cut the ties, you need to get into a meditative state. Clear your mind and remove all other distractions.  Then, imagine yourself in a neutral space, (a park, cafe, by the lake). Now, imagine the other person standing in front of you. Welcome them, and start a dialogue. Talk to this person, tell them how you feel, what you need, or just what you need to clear. Once you have cleared the air, you can invite them to do the same if you wish. When this has been done, you then need to see the cords between you. Most of the time, people are cutting cords with someone they love, but need to let go of, so there are usually at least 2, but probably 3 cords between you. Decide how many you'd like to cut, but don't feel like you need to cut them all at the same time. You may still want this person in your life, but not with such an emotional tie. When you have decided, I want you to reach into your pocket or bag, and pull out a pair of scissors or a pocket knife. You then cut the cord(s). You will not feel any physical pain, but you may feel a sense of release, as if a burden has been lifted. Make sure you tell this person that they are still loved (because we really do love everyone, even the ones we struggle with). Also thank them for sharing this experience and lesson with you. Let them go back to where ever they were, and take a moment to thank yourself for allowing this to change. When your ready come back to the here and now.

You may need to do this a few times, and as I said, you may not want to cut all ties at the same time. If you have any questions, feel free to email me & ask. This technique is a combination of a few things: hypnosis, meditation, & visualization. Remember, Thoughts ARE Things, and so if your intention is to let this person go, this is what will happen.

Well, I gotta run, T is calling and as much as I love you guys, I love him a little more. lol. Understandable I'm sure. Drop me a line, let me know how it works. I'm here for you.

Love & Light, xoxo Truly

HAPPY NEW YEAR! So sorry its been so long Lovies. I've been a very busy lady thanks to you. No, really, Thank You!

Today's blog inspiration comes from a lecture I gave back in November.... I hope you enjoy it.

    This past year (2010) I offended one of my friends on Facebook by making the statement 'Everything in life is a Choice.' Believe me, it was not my intention, but with out offending her, I never would have dug deeper into that statement.  I really believed it to be a true and accurate statement, but to really express it properly; I needed to dig further..... yes, I'm talking about FREE WILL. But before we get into that, let's go back to the beginning. 
    You are spirit. You are in heaven before you are born. You say to the God of Your Understanding or to the Universe, I want to grow & evolve. You know the best way to learn, is to experience for yourself....  So you stand in front of a giant black board (or white board) that is covered with words like: Integrity, Honesty, Humility, Loss, Unconditional Love, Forgiveness, Pain, Respect, Trust, Acceptance..... etc.  Some people pick 15, other people pick 45, but the average person picks out approximately 25 words.  Those 25 words are the focus of 25 lessons that you want to learn while spending time on earth. Then you look at the candidates for your mother (seeing the major events in her life), and you pick one. From her partners, you pick your father (seeing the major events in his life also).  Then you are born! You start growing up and all the while, you're learning the lessons.  You are living your life, and God or the Universe hands you a scenario. How you act, and react is completely up to you (free will), and therefore you may or may not learn the lesson that was intended. You see, we are in charge of WHAT we learn, we just don't get to pick HOW we learn it. That is up to God or the Universe to decide.
    Now, you ask, 'what happens if you didn't learn the lesson?'. Good question! Stop here, just a moment. Can you think of anything in your life right now that is REPEATING? It may not be exactly the same, but the main lesson seems similar? Or, is it worst than the last time? It's harder this time, isn't it? Right..... So you repeat the lessons until you get it.... and sometimes it takes lifetimes (yes plural) to get it. You can be repeating something for more than one lifetime, several in fact (but that's another story) and each time the lesson gets harder and harder. The whole point of life is the lessons. We want to evolve and better ourselves, and the best way to do that is to experience the lessons. It really is all about the experiences.
    So that brings me to the law of Choices. It all begins with what we chose before we got here. We no longer have any control over what we picked, but we do have control over how we react or act.  All we can do now is choose to make the best of it... choose to grow, to love, to connect, to give. Can you GROW into your current lessons? or will you turn your back, become bitter and resentful? Choosing to grow is not easy, we all know this, but it is necessary for survival. It comes down to Personal Responsibility. "We are responsible for our own progression or the unfolding of self.  When we can accept that how we act or react to any given situation or experience determines the outcome of that experience, we have taken the first step toward accepting personal responsibility. No one can force us, or make us do anything against our will. we have been given free will to accept or reject any of life's experiences that come our way. When we understand this principle fully, we stop looking for external sources to take the responsibility for anything that has happened or will happen to us. When we start acting instead of reacting to situations or experiences, than we have resumed responsibility for our lives and can start directing it according to our own desires. Regardless of the situations in which we find ourselves, whether they are of our own creation or outside circumstances which have drawn us into them, how they affect us becomes our responsibility. We must take this sense of responsibility into all areas of our lives, for the same rule applies, whether it involves family, community or universal situations. In the end, it will not matter what others think of us that will count, but what we think of ourselves. " (The Seven Principles of Spiritualism).
    Now, what about WHAT you picked to learn...... I've had many people ask me 'Why did I choose this?' or "what is the point of this lesson?" . I may be able to give you a direction on what it could be, but really, only you know the answer. You need to search your soul and ask it those questions. As they say, 'God doesn't answer the How or the Why, he just answers the Who, and When, and the answer is almost always YOU & NOW.'
    When I tell this to someone who is a parent, they often struggle with it. Being a parent myself, I know why. We (parents) tend to want to take away pain or grief from our children. What we don't realize is that this child, just like us, CHOSE these lessons, and by taking away the pain, grief or personal responsibility, we are taking away their lesson. What happens when we don't learn the lesson? Right, we REPEAT it! (heavy, right?). So, as much as you may feel like you are helping and protecting your child, spiritually, you may be stunting their growth! Just like us they need to experience to learn and grow.
    When we have learned all that we wish to learn, we can choose to go home. Some of you have heard me say that we have 5 (or so) opportunities to 'go home'. It is up to us when we decide to leave this earth. But the point being, maybe the person only had a 2 or 3 lessons to learn, and therefore decided to 'go home', what we would consider, early.  On the other hand, you may have fulfilled all of the lessons you intended to learn, and now you're just enjoying. Even death is a choice. (this again, is a topic for another day).
    Anyway, the long and the short of it is..... Everything in Life is a Choice. It's the perfect opportunity to take responsibility for where you are now and to passionately participate with intention, focusing on being in the present!

Thanks for reading. Love & Light,
Truly

Oh, so much to say.... & I have no idea where to begin!
Ah, ok, so for those of you who are suffering with a bit of the depression bug, I did say to keep an eye out because I'd post a mantra for you on my blog.... "I now go beyond other people's fears and limitations. I am the creator of my life". Depression is about not having the courage to live the life that you WANT, not the life you are handed. In almost every reading I end up speaking about Personal Responsibility. It is one of the 7 principles that I live by, and so very important. There is a sense of freedom when you take responsibility for all of your actions and reactions.  When you can accept that you made that decision, knowing full well that there are consequences (whether good or bad, positive or negative) to each choice, you'll find that you almost ALWAYS feel good about your decision. Other people may not, but life really amounts to what YOU want & how you want to experience it.
This brings me to another very important point, "No one can make you feel anything, unless you allow it".  Let me explain: people cannot force feelings on you. Only you can control your feelings. You can choose to feel a certain way. You can choose to feel hurt. You can choose to feel betrayed. You can choose to feel abused, neglected or battered. No one can MAKE you feel this way. You can also choose to learn the lesson and move on. You can choose to understand. You can choose to accept your role in the situation and change it. You OWN your feelings. So Own Them.
So, approximately 8 weeks ago, I started saying a mantra on a daily basis. If you are a Facebook friend of mine, you'll have seen it a few times as my status. "The Universe Supports Me In All That I Do." This mantra has made a HUGE difference in my life. Honestly. It has helped me to manifest all of the things I want. Well most.... lol. I wanted to be busier in my life (yes, really). I wanted my business to take off. I wanted to be available to my son. I wanted to help my husband. I wanted to have more fun. I wanted to gain more financial freedom. I say this mantra at least once a day. My life has changed in so many ways. The point of my telling you this is: If you don't make your desires known, how can anyone ever help you fulfill them? If you do not ask for help, you will never receive it. I tell clients all the time to put what you want, what you desire, out to the universe (or to God). Prayer is Talking to God, Meditation is Listening to God. Only when we specifically ask for what we want, can our desires be filled.

Lastly, here are a few quotes that have been floating around my head lately (I'm sure they'll be helpful to someone):

Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.
— Robert F. Bennett

We need to teach the next generation of children from Day One that they are responsible for their lives. Mankind's greatest gift, also its greatest curse, is that we have free choice. We can make our choices built from love or from fear.
— Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

You cannot afford to wait for perfect conditions. Goal setting is often a matter of balancing timing against available resources. Opportunities are easily lost while waiting for perfect conditions.
— Gary Ryan Blair (Mind Munchies)

Thank You for taking the time to read my thoughts.
Love & Light,
Truly xo

So this past Tuesday I was invited up to the Port Perry Island to do a psychic party. A big thank you to Courtney & her Mum for having me come! (beautiful house btw). I have mentioned in previous posts about people who cant be read. I do come across them from time to time. If I find that I cannot help someone (its usually in the first few minutes, btw), I refer them to a colleague, Allyson Peacock (who btw, is a fantastic medium & great lady!). So, back to the party, I met the first guest. I had her shuffle the deck like I always do. I had her pull 6 cards from anywhere in the deck. I dont remember all of the cards that she pulled, but I do remember the first 2 cards she pulled were the diamond & the monkey.  The diamond can represent a few things, but usually it represents a union or marriage. I told her that someone close to her was about to get married. I told her that I felt that this was one of her children (I later found out she had 3 daughters). The Monkey can represent a few things as well, but in this case it meant travel. I told her that I could see her on a plane, and I felt that she was on her way to a warm or tropical destination. I kept hearing the words 'Dominican Republic'.  She proceeded to tell me that she would never be on a plane, & had no interest in going anywhere warm or tropical. She was terrified of flying.
HUMPH! Well, plan b. So I did what I normally do. I was honest, told her I didn't think I could read her, and gave her money back.  She asked what the rest of the cards meant, and I told her the meaning, but I couldn't give her the context as I was obviously way off in reading her energy. She asked if we could try again after I did a few other readings. I've never had anyone ask to try again, so I've never done it. I agreed, but told her to hang on to her money until I saw here again in an hour or so. Not such a great start to the night.
The next guest came down. I did the same thing, 'please shuffle the deck as best you can. when your ready pull 6 cards from anywhere in the deck'. She did, & I read her cards. She was also going to travel somewhere tropical or warm, it would be soon. She was also going to have a union in her future, which I felt was also soon. I was bang on with a few things. She told me that she and her boyfriend had been discussing marriage and that they were thinking of a destination wedding to Las Vegas! Just before she left, I took a good look at her, & asked if she was related to the previous guest.  She said yes, that the last lady was her mother! I giggled and asked her to tell her mother about her reading and the plans she had been making.
When her mother returned, she laughed and told me that she had no idea that her daughter had been planning all that. When she shuffled the cards again, she pulled 2 of the same cards from the 1st reading (I cant remember what they are). When I was done, we had a good giggle about what had happened, and she seemed to feel a bit better. I SURE DID.
So, I guess the point of this story is, just because you don't think I'm connecting or getting any information for you...... Doesn't mean I'm not!
Thanks for reading lovies. xoxo Love & Light,
Truly

Interesting..... It is truly amazing what can happen in just a week!

Ok, so for my friends and fans, I need to clarify a few things:

When I'm giving you a reading, I can only give you what I get. I can't control what I get. Spirit gives me all kinds of things.... "the good, the bad, and the ugly" as I say. So, my belief is, if Spirit is bringing this forward for you, then you need to hear it. I don't sugar coat, make nice, or keep information from you! Its not my job to do that. I'm going to give you what I get, I may try to say it diplomatically, but either way, it will come out of my mouth. For example: it was not easy earlier this week telling a client that their significant other was cheating on them.... but... they already knew it, and just wanted confirmation.

Most of my readings are just confirmation for people. Many, many, many people already know the answers they are seeking. Honestly, they just need to hear someone else say it. I am impartial, unbiased, and have no opinion on whatever subject that they come to me for. Its a good position to be in, but please note, the opinions expressed are not of the medium, but of the spirit I am hearing or channeling. (in other words, please don't shoot the messenger!) I'm not here to tell you want you WANT to hear, I'm here to tell you what you NEED to hear.

Karma is alive and well. The simple meaning of Karma is 'what goes around, comes around'. So for every action you do (positive or negative), the equivalent will happen to you or for you. Now, to make it more complicated..... since we live more than one life (reincarnation), we could be fulfilling Karma from a past life (doesn't that sound fun). For example: In a recent past life you could have been a wealthy Persian Prince. You were used for your power, money & status. You were never respected for your thoughts, or opinions. SO.... when you chose this life time, you made a vow of poverty! Yep, you decided that you wouldn't be used for your money in this life. So now, you may be respected for your thoughts and opinions, but you will struggle to live comfortably, or even survive. Does that make sense?

Other Mediums & Psychics. So, I've said this before, but I'm not sure if I've written it anywhere. We are just like any other profession. Some of us are Great, some of us are Good, and some of us really need to Retire! lol. Honestly, its like dentists, someone will say, 'omg, this dentist I saw was so great, knew exactly what I needed, and fixed me up right away'. So you say, that sounds good, I'm going to book with them. So you go to the appointment, and the dentist that your friend raved about was well.... brutal. So there are a few factors. #1, you didn't really want to have your teeth checked/cleaned (so you aren't open to hear what the medium says), #2 they weren't your cup of tea (you didn't feel that the medium was connected or reading you), and #3 you came out of the appointment hurting & very unhappy (Its possible that the medium could not read you, but kept trying anyway). We (mediums/psychics) are not perfect. Our Motto is 'from spirit, through spirit, to spirit', but it doesn't always work. The only thing I can suggest is that if your reading isn't going well, tell the medium that your working with. If they can't help you, they will know someone else that probably can (if your open to it).

Accuracy: In all my time around mediums / psychics (most of my life), its been very rare that we can ever actually pinpoint something like a name. Names are tough! If we are lucky, we are given a name, but for the most part we get an initial, or nothing at all. That is why we usually have to describe what the person looked like. Also, most spirits revert to when they were happiest in their physical body, which in my experience is usually around the age of 35 or so. It gives you something to think about anyway.

Time: Spirit has very little understanding of Time here on earth. What is a few years to us, may only be a few minutes to them. They do NOT wear watches! They have no concept of time, and because they left it behind when they crossed over, they don't feel like they need to keep experiencing it. Ask your self this: 'if you didn't have to keep a schedule..... would you?' NO! lol, at least I know I wouldn't!

I hope this helps out a bit. I'll try to post more blogs like this to help educate. I know this information isn't always readily available.  Btw, feel free to ask questions, I love answering them!

Love & Light, Truly