Truly, What happens when we die? I've just lost someone very close to me and cannot understand why. 

Great questions. Let me start by saying I'm sorry for your loss. Whether it was a person or a pet each life serves a purpose and it is always sad when another light goes out on the earth. Why is a tricky question and it could be for a few reasons. It is really so individual that I can't generalize an answer. I am sorry. I can answer what happens though...

From what I've been told the soul is very clever. It actually knows when there is the threat of death and can/ does literally jump out of the physical body before passing. This is how we get near death experiences & astral travel (although this is not dying). The soul is attached to the body through an umbilical like cord. When it leaves it still remains attached, until such a time when the physical body ceases to function. In an 'out of body' or 'near death' experience, you'll hear of people saying they were hovering above the body, still able to see & hear all that was going on in the room. When this happens the person has no physical connection and therefore will not feel any pain or any comforts unfortunately. Once the physical body stops functioning the soul is then disconnected. They are then considered 'earth bound'. A good depiction of this is actually in the movie Ghost with Patrick Swayze and Whoopie Goldberg. Although the depiction of the medium is a bit cheesy. The spirit will remain this way until they become accustomed to their new metaphysical body, see that their funeral and other arrangements have been made and help their family to cope with their transition. Quite often shortly after the funeral, a family member will see this person in a dream. This would be the easiest way for them to let their family know that they made out ok and that they are fine. 

At this point they would move into the state of limbo. Limbo is a neutral state. It's literally the energy or space between heaven and earth. When we are in limbo we attach ourselves to a person, place or thing. Everyone passes through limbo and it is not the purgatory other religions would have you believe. Sometimes people will choose to stay here because they aren't ready to move forward. They usually attach themselves to family or loved ones who are still struggling with their passing. 

When they are ready they will move into heaven. They will do something called 'life review' or the 'judgement'. This is when we process all that took place in our lifetime. When this is completed they have their free will back to come and go as they please. At this time they will have the opportunity to come back as a new life. Usually not remembering anything from the previous life. In my experience it isn't unusual for a spirit to take 20 years or so to decide to come back! 


Please remember friends we have free will on this side and it also extends to the other side. How quickly or slowly one moves through the different stages is entirely up to them. 


I do hope that helps a bit. Know that whatever stage your loved one is in that they can and do hear you. So talk to them. They will be comforted by your words and prayers. This will help them to process faster and hopefully more to a better place of communication. 
In any event, I wish you all love, and peace at this time.

Love & Light, Truly 

This past week I had a great question asked: Truly how do our past lives effect this life?

The soul is made up of energy. It has its own energetic DNA per say. If you follow my theory of how we got here in the 1st place, see: Reclaiming your Personal Power & Personal Responsibility (http://www.trulymedium.com/trulys-blog/personal-responsibility-reclaiming-your-power) .

You’ll remember that how we get this life it through a series of choices we decide on with the Divine (God of your understanding or Universe). We then descend to earth, to be a twinkle in mum’s eye until our physical body is conceived.  This is the beginning part of our journey here in this life.

We are then born, live and learn lessons. Fast forward through your life to the moments before passing. While in reflection you realize you’ve had some pretty amazing lessons. Most people work on Unconditional Love, Respect, Integrity, Honesty, Humility, Fear, Gratitude, Compassion, Greif, & Loss, just to name a few! You’ve hopefully learned them all….. ;o) So, once you cross the veil, you meet up with your loved ones & start your journey through the (for simplicity sake) 3 dimensions, Earth, Limbo & Heaven.

Once through Earth & Limbo, we reach ‘heaven’ or the afterlife. When we reach this point we do something I call ‘Life Review’. Other religions call this ‘the judgement’, but since I’m in the belief that God (the universe), loves us unconditionally, I can’t see why he/they would ever pass judgement on us. Life review is really about giving us the opportunity to learn or reflect on all we have done & said in this life time. Its like the Final Exam, where life is the in class lessons…. Get it? While in review, we do not have contact with the outside world. For the most part it really is like an exam because if any one comes knocking trying to connect with you they are usually turned away. Once this review is complete, we get our free will back to come and go as we please.  Most people come & visit their loved ones who are still living in the earth dimension. Others go off to school to learn new things. Some go & do things they didn’t get to accomplish while they were here on earth.

Now eventually you may decide to come back to the earth dimension as a human again! (how exciting). So you would start the process of picking what lessons you’d like to work on this time around. You then pick your mother & father and carry on as you would have before.  Now, the difference being, you have something to work off of now. I think some of the lessons are ‘required’ (unconditional love, grief, loss) but you have a ton of ‘electives’ to pick (ex: betrayal, confusion, self-reliance). You have already had one life, so you can now build on to those experiences with new experiences. The Soul has a metaphysical DNA, which is very similar to our physical DNA where in it contains the history of us. It is entirely made up of all of the experiences that have ever happened to us.  Our own personal Akashic Records.

You become born again (tee hee), or you start living a 2nd life. You start working on the new lessons you have chosen. Well since your soul DNA remembers all that happened in your 1st life, you can imagine how your soul would recognise a similar situation, and depending on the way the similar situation turned out in the 1st life, will either react the same or differently in the 2nd life.

I know, its complicated. Here is a True (Truly) Life example:

In your 1st life shortly after you were born, your mother died. Your family rallies around you and you are well loved. Although you are well looked after, it’s still not the love of the same woman who brought you into this world and therefor you have a sense of abandonment. You grow up to have a great life & die happy.

Now, you come back in start your 2nd life.  Your mother has a pretty good pregnancy all the way along. You are both healthy & happy. During labour, your soul’s DNA remembers that your mother ‘abandoned’ you shortly after being born.  You then become undecided as to whether or not you really want to be here. You could be abandoned again. This could be why a labour becomes stalled, or your umbilical cord becomes wrapped around your neck. This could also be why babies flip in the last weeks of pregnancy and become breach.

See how your soul DNA totally changed the direction of what could have been? Isn’t that amazing? My poor Mum! God bless you Mum!

Our Past lives can play havoc in other areas of our current lives too. If you’ve ever had a reading with me you may have heard me speak about ‘Karmic Bleed Over’.  Others refer to this as ‘Morphic Resonance’ but I feel it’s a bit different. Here are the definitions:

Morphic Resonance: “the basis of memory in nature…. The idea of mysterious telepathy-type of interconnections between organisms and of collective memories within a species.” Example: You think you remember someone or something from somewhere, but there is no possible way you have been in contact with or in this space before.

Karmic Bleed Over: When the Life lessons (Karma) from a previous life time, interferes (bleeds into or over) this current life time, and usually wreaks havoc in it.  Example: You are happily married, then you meet someone who you can’t seem to pull away from. Your Soul DNA remembers this person from a previous life where the two of you were lovers but unable to stay together for whatever reason.  You end up falling for this person in this life & leave your spouse for them. The beginning of your relationship is great, but it ends up fizzling out shortly after you’ve been together for a while. You miss your Spouse, your family, your old life but you cannot go back.  

Unfortunately Karmic Bleed Over is usually not a positive influence. It is hard to see the difference between the two, especially when you are in it.

Now for those of you who are old souls, can you see how this could be a challenge if you don’t clear out your Soul’s DNA? This is the reason why I started teaching the ‘Complete Cellular Mind & Body’ (CCMBA) Workshop. It releases the Soul’s DNA, well some of it at least. You can also release it through ‘Past Life Regression’ work.  In my experience I’ve found it clears faster with CCMBA.

Anyway, I hope this helps you understand Past Lives a bit better. As always leave a question or a comment. Thanks for reading. Love & Light, Truly