Sometimes people ask me what its like to be a medium. Most of the time I smile and tell them how much I love connecting people with their loved ones who have crossed over. But just like in any profession, mediums have challenging days too.

Yesterday. Yeah, yesterday was tough.

It was 8:30 pm & I was sitting with my last client of the day. I had read for her once before. She told me that her last reading was (her words) ‘incredible’. I had described her loved ones perfectly and she was anxious to make those connections again.  I treated her like any other reading…. As I honestly don’t remember any of my readings.

I started as I always do…. Prayer asking for protection and love. I opened the spiritual ‘door’ to let those who have crossed over come in & then I waited…..  When I started describing to this lady the 1st person in the room & how he died, she really had only one question for me. ‘Are you sure the first man you described dead? Or could he still be living somehow?’

When I asked him, he wouldn’t (or maybe couldn’t) respond. He then started talking about his spouse. He also gave me more information about his personality, and more about who he was. He gave me a sense of urgency, that the messages that he was giving me had to be passed along right away.

She thought this was her brother in law. He had been admitted to hospital earlier in the day for some routine or maintenance care. He had a disease, ALS or Lupis or something to that effect. She told me that they had put him in a coma to help him heal faster. A wave of grief came over me. I knew he was still alive. I also knew he wouldn’t be coming out again.

This is the part of my work I dislike. I learned a long time ago, it is not my job to change the messages. Its not my job to judge what is and is not important. I am only the telephone line to the other side.

I told this lady that I was very concerned for him, and that I felt that she should do what she could to support her sister as soon as she could. I don’t think she believed what she was hearing.

 We carried on talking to the other family members who had crossed in the room, and the angel that also appeared. The rest of the reading was positive, filled with hope and love from her family and for things coming up in her life.

When I finished with her, I started my evening prayers. I asked God to help this family, as well as the many others that I come in contact with each day. I hoped with all my heart that the information I had given this lady was wrong. That somehow he was going to be fine and that their lives would continue on.

8:30 this morning I received an email from this lady. Her brother in law passed away some time around 8 am.

It’s a heavy thing, doing what I do. Talking about death, talking to dead people, its not always easy. I think that most people are afraid. They are afraid of what I do, what I know and what will be said. I think they are afraid of death.  I really wish they weren’t afraid of me.

The life of a medium is lonely. I think because of their fear, most people wont keep in touch or let me in. Sometimes I feel like people only contact me when they need something from the other side. I’m sure that feeling is not something specific to me, but some days it certainly feels that way.

When I was a kid, I had a hard time differentiating between the living and the ‘dead’. In truth, I had more friends who were ‘dead’ than living. I’ve been an outsider most of my life. I guess that’s why I’ve kept to myself a lot. Maybe that’s why I seem private or sometimes cold. I’ve had a life time of learning that when I let people in, they don’t usually stay long.

Days like today I really ask myself if I’m doing the right thing. Should I be working as a medium? Is this the best way I can be in service to others? Is this the best way to contribute to the earth? Should I be telling people everything I receive?

Yes. As heartbreaking and heavy as it is, this work is needed. At this moment in time, this is how the world needs me.

Tomorrow is a brand new day. It will be filled with new people and new adventures. I’m excited for it. I’m grateful that when I put my head on my pillow tonight, that God will wash away most memories of the messages I shared today. I’m thankful for the peace that comes when I sleep.

Thanks for taking the time. Love & Light,

Truly

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When I was a kid, manners went a long way.... I like to think that they still do. So, I say thank you. Because of you, I've been able to help so many people re-connect with their loved ones & receive information that will/has helped them on their life paths.
Some of you have been asking for parties in recent weeks. I love you for it, I really do. I'm sure you will understand when I say parties are very taxing. When I work a party, I'm typically working for about 8 hours. Now, some of you may say.... hey! I work 8 hours all the time.... but, do you do it with a 5 month old???? lol.  My little guy is exclusively breastfed. Because of this, I have to be very careful as to how much stress I put my body under. The more stress, the less milk.... which as you can imagine makes for a very unhappy baby. When Graham gets older I'll revisit working parties, but until then lovies, I'm out for now. If you still want to have a party, I do know some dynamite mediums that would be delighted to help you. Feel free to ask about who I recommend in your area.
In the last 2 weeks I've had some pretty high profile cases come knocking at my door. For Privacy reasons, I obviously cannot give you any information on what transpired. Both were drawn to me because of how transparent I am here on my website. Both told me so after they had sat with me. It was certainly interesting to work these cases, as I had no real prior knowledge of them. You see, I don't watch the news. I don't like it. Its way too negative, and I'm way too sensitive. Both parties were genuinly shocked at how little I actually knew. I wear my emotions on my sleeve.... I can't hide anything... not that I try. I was also told they would be back to see me when enough time had passed to be able to connect with their loved ones.
Well Lovies, I gotta run, work calls. Sending love & light out to you & our beautiful world. xoxo Truly

Hello Dear Ones,

I had a moment, so I thought I'd address an issue that seems to come up quite frequently in my line of work...... Ouija Boards.

Sigh, to be honest, I'm really not a fan. When used properly, they can be accurate tools of divination, but rarely are they used with the reverence that they deserve. Hasbro has made a game of connecting to the other side. I hear they now make them in Pink..... Yes, that's just what I want my daughter to play with, a pink tool of divination used to connect with the other side. Come on, where is the responsibility or accountability!

Anyway, like any tool of divination, you need to have respect for it, and the power behind it. I think its amazing that people who have knowledge of the other side, just pick it up and start playing. Yes, I totally understand curiosity, but honestly would you do that with a steam powered engine, a kitchen stand mixer or a rifle? NO, you wouldn't. You would read the instructions, and maybe even ask a friend who knows something about it to help you understand it better before you played with it. You should do the same with a ouija board if you decide you really want to use it.

You should also start with a prayer. Make sure to protect yourself. It does not have to be anything fancy, but it does have to ask for protection for all in the room, and it does have to be done with pure intent.  How do you know WHO you are inviting in is actually from the "Light" and not the "Dark"? Yes of course you can ask them, but who's to say they aren't lying? Validation & verification are key, for anyone who is using a divination tool.  I validate & verify constantly in my own practice.  The other thing I'd really like to stress is how to close the communication. Be sure to say goodbye in a strong loud voice. This is telling the spirits that they are no longer welcome and that they should go back to whence they came. You could also do another prayer asking that everyone who attended be safely returned to their homes (living & dead).  Even with all this, I suggest that if you are a novice, then please, ask someone with a background in spiritual world to train you or to at least sit in on a session with you. As you can tell, I'm still not a fan.

Now, as for things that go bump in the night...... My favorite! lol, just teasing.  When you have an unwanted visitor like a ghost, apparition, or spook how you deal with them is actually very simple. Its 4 simple words: "Please Go A Way". Honestly, that's it. Once a spirit understands that it is not welcome, it will leave (for the most part). Very rarely do I come across a spirit who sticks around once they become aware that they are no longer welcome. If you have asked them to leave, and they have not within an hour or so, then you need to call in the big guns like Durham Rescue Mediums or someone like myself. We are trained and educated to handle these types of situations. Please do not attempt to make them leave by yourself. We do not work alone, neither should you. If we cant get to you right away, you can without causing any harm, "smudge" the home or space. Here is a good website for tips on how to smudge: http://www.nativeamericanresearch.org/smudging.html This will neutralize the energy in the space, thus allowing you to feel more comfortable.  In all my years of working with spirit and the other side, only a handful of times have they actually been strong enough to manifest into something that can actually cause hurt or harm. This is extremely rare and very unusual. The way I tell people to act when they have a spirit in their home is like kids in a school yard. If you play nice, so will they!

Anyway, I better run, I have another client shortly.

Thanks for reading Lovies! Love & Light, Truly

Hi Y'all! Sorry its been so long... Life gets crazy sometimes, as you all know.Now that I'm almost back into my regular routine, I'm attending Wednesday Night Open Meditation Classes at the Divine Light Spiritual Foundation. The Teacher is Mrs. Bonnie Galka, a lovely & well educated lady, who gives a very good guided meditation.

Each Wednesday Bonnie asks if anyone has any questions. Since the class is mostly attended by beginners, there is always at least one question. A few questions that have come up recently are: Why can't a Medium or Psychic get the information that I'm asking for?  Why should we seek the guidance of a Medium or Psychic, when the outcome or what they predict can change? and Whats the difference between a Medium and a Psychic?  Lol, of course it is a subject near and dear to my heart.... and Bonnie knows this, so she let me have the floor.

So... There is no guarantee that the medium can see what your asking of them. The thing is, we depend on spirit to bring forward what you need to know. They tell us what to tell you, not the other way around. They bring what they feel is important. Now, you may not feel it is important, but really, who are you to tell them (spirit) what is and isn't important? Don't you think they may know better than you? Also, just because it isn't important to you, doesn't mean its not important to someone else (your spouse, your kid, your friend), anyone you share the information with. You never know, it could mean the world to that other person, and you have no clue that they are even interested.  Now, say you have something in specific that you want to know about. We can certainly ask about it, but spirit may not be willing to share at this time. Yes, we get as frustrated as you do.

The whole point in seeking guidance is just that, to seek information. When you receive that information you have free will to follow it, or to change it. Sometimes just knowing that an event is going to happen stops it in its tracks, or changes the outcome. You have the ability to believe what the medium/psychic says, or you can choose to ignore it. Or say I tell you that I see a car accident in your future. By giving you that information, you will most likely change your driving habits (subconsciously) and may actually prevent it. I have a really great example of this if you ever get the chance to ask me about it.
The 3rd and final question is the one I had the hardest answering. I now realize that I had to live through working this past weekend at Oshawa Rib Fest, to be able to fully answer it. (I started this blog back at the beginning of August!). If you look under my FAQ's page you'll see these definitions:

Mediums ~ A medium has the ability to communicate with the spirits of the dead. This may be accomplished by channeling, in which the medium acts as a go-between for the other side. A good medium is also constantly updating their education in how to communicate.

Psychics ~ A psychic works at an intuitive level. Individuals who are psychic claim to have the ability to perceive information hidden from the normal senses via a "sixth sense" or extrasensory perception.

A medium may have psychic abilities, but a psychic may not be a medium.

I hope that helped a bit. I have found that most psychics don't do anything to keep up with learning new techniques or information. They feel that they do not need to. They just have to practice the gift that they were given.

I had the opportunity to meet a psychic while at the Rib Fest. She was a little perturbed that we (myself and other mediums/psychics) were there. Apparently she has been working Rib Fest since the beginning, and has never had any competition. I will say this, when people came to her and asked for someone who was in my tent, she actually sent them to us! I was shocked to learn that, and accompanied Shannon (the owner of my tent) to thank her for that.  Now.... I found it interesting that I was handed a brochure that talked about her psychic abilities, that she was a healer, reader and advisor (her spelling).  I loved this line on the inside cover "She will tell you why you came and how to solve it".  Other parts read: Let her be your solution. let her amaze you with her healing abilities to clear black magic, bad luck and evil forces! Put your heart and mind at peace knowing you can trust and believe once again. Specialize in removing any sorrow your heart has felt. Call Today for a better tomorrow.

This Amazing Lady is open 9 to 9, 7 days a week! There is a phone number for you to call, but no address..... or NAME? Really? NO NAME? That CANT be a Typo. Sorry, I'm sure someone would have caught that. This brochure has been printed by a professional printer.  I get not having an address on it, as I too work out of my home, but not a name? That I just don't understand. Where is the integrity? Why isn't she proud to put her name to what she does?

We had a few people come to our tent after visiting with her. 2 out of 3 were scared. Honestly scared! She had said that they had been cursed and that she couldn't remove the  curse there, (of course), but that they would have to book a private reading later in the week (of course). Oh by the way, that later reading was to the tune of $300! and that was just the 1st visit, it would take 3 or 4 (but of course). Also if she prays for your soul, that's another fee.

Oh, and don't ask her how she got the information.... she just knows..... really. She doesn't hear, see or feel spirit. None of the information comes from spirit. Just her.

God knows I'm not perfect, but at least I'm honest. I stand behind my work. I am the real deal. And I never take the glory for spirit... as we mediums say... 'From Spirit, THROUGH Spirit, To Spirit." . I'm just the messenger.  I also don't scare people into seeing me again. I actually tell them not to come and see me before 6 months. People need time to let things unfold. I also remind them that they have free will, and that ultimately how their life turns out is really up to them. I try to suggest ways they can improve their life themselves (like through eduction, readings or classes, meditation, physical activity, or by seeking out medical guidance.)

I have testimonials, I teach workshops on self improvement (and don't charge an arm & a leg). I'm constantly taking classes and reading books. I don't gouge when it comes to my fees (private or parties). Everyday I answer questions to clarify something that came up in a reading for a client. I do that at no charge.

I always tell people it's not about the money. I use the money towards my retirement, taking my family on vacation and some of the niceties that life has to offer. I don't need the money. I do it to help. I love to help people connect with their loved ones. I love to help people see different avenues that are coming up for them. I love helping people.

Anyway, I hope that helps people know what to look for when looking for help & answers from the divine (spirit).  If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to leave them. I welcome the discussions.

As always, thank you for reading. Sorry it was so long. Love & Light, Truly

And for those of you who have been watching me on T.V., you now know why I say 'spirit says...' As you've learned, Its not my information, its from spirit. Pretty cool eh?