I was invited to give the inspirational talk at the Divine Light Spiritual Church today. ​​I first gave this talk in 2015.  That year vowed to be more of my ‘Authentic Self’.  I vowed to come from a place of ‘Heart Centered Spirituality’, and show you my real self, whether others liked it or not, also even if I wasn’t ready.  It was a enlightening year to say the least. It strengthened my faith, my trust in the universe, and my confidence in myself. I have updated the important numbers below.  I do hope you enjoy. 

 
The Importance of Prayer
 
In Alice Walker’s Book The Color Purple, we are reminded that: “God ain’t he or she, but it…. Don’t look like anything. It ain’t something you can look at apart from anything else, including you. I believe God is everything. Everything that is or ever was or ever will be. And when you can feel that, and be happy to feel that, you’ve found it.”
 
So, let me clarify for you: All of these words are inter changeable: God, Buddha, Jesus, Ala, Christ Consciousness, Oneness, Universe, Infinite Intelligence, The Force, Divine Spirit, Universal Energy, Good Orderly Direction and so on…… Do you understand me? Yes, ok, lets carry on…. 
 
Prayer is NOT about what you can get, but rather a way of relating to your understanding of God. The act of prayer is to re-establish or strengthen our connection with Spirit Energy.
 
Prayer can be used to express the Truth of our own places in the universe. Everyday it can be used to remind us of our presence in this infinite mystery and unending time.
 
Prayer is useful. Just as the body needs rest, the mind needs peace, and the spirit needs attention. Prayer is a conscious decision to focus our attention on ONENESS. 
 
If you want to FEEL God, Energy or the DIVINE SPIRIT in your daily life, you need to act as if it is already a part of you. We are one divine energy or inspiration if you will.
 
Prayer can be simple:
 
Guide me, Remind me of the Truth of my being. Help me to see beyond what I can physically see. Give me courage and strength to share myself authentically. Inspire my Soul to do honest work.
  
Rilke’s Letters to a Young Poet
“Don’t think that the person who is trying to comfort you now lives untroubled among the simple & quiet words that sometimes gives you pleasure. His life has much trouble and sadness, and remains behind yours. If it were otherwise, he could never been able to find those words.”
 
One of the best Confidence builders is experience. I am going to share some of mine with you now…  
 
It is hard to admit a weakness. Its hard to admit a weakness to others that you admire. It is hard to admit weakness to people who have bestowed a sacred title to you…
 
In churches, a minister is someone who is authorized by a church or religious organization to perform functions such as teaching of beliefs; leading services such as weddings, baptisms or funerals; or otherwise providing spiritual guidance to the community at large.
 
Notice how it doesn’t say anything about perfection…. Although it certainly feels implied sometimes… The heaviness of this title is not to be taken lightly. Please know, I don't.
 
2552 days…Can you guess what 2552 days is? If you trace it back it will bring you to January 28th, 2015. That is my Sobriety date. 
 
I am an alcoholic. I am what they call a ‘binge’ drinker… the semantics of this are not important to this talk, but that is the kind of alcoholic I am, in case you wanted to know.
 
Although like most alcoholics I have some incredible stories, funny and entertaining.  The story of all is the one of my sobriety.  It gave me my life back. It gave me purpose again. Admitting my problem gave me peace. When I accepted it, I was able to change. Change is what I needed most.
 
Sure I used a lot of tools to ‘get better’. The one that has seen me through day in and day out is prayer. That’s what I hope to share with you today.
 
Prayer  can be simple and eloquent. Or it can be dirty, messy and fist pumping. It can be whispered, thought, yelled, kept in secret or shared.  It can be big or small. It is entirely up to you. You are the deciding factor in your prayer.
 
You see I needed to tell you this so that you can see I’m no different from you. I am flawed. I am hurt. I am growing. I am grateful. I am honest. I am trying. I am human.  Remember you and I are the same.
 
You see we are all equal in Spirit- not one of us any different- and yet we feel different because of what we experience and the actions that we have or have not done.
 
When we recognize that we are not in charge, and that the only thing we can do is take charge of ourselves and our actions, that is when we awaken.  None of us are in charge of the universe or the actions or non-actions of others.

We are only in charge of ourselves.
 
This is when we start to realize how important that connection to the ‘oneness’, ‘god’, ‘divine spirit’, ‘universe’, or ‘force’ really is. We need to keep and maintain that connection to this so we can keep our connection to others. So we don’t feel so alone.
 
Some of the easiest prayers I have said have been:
 
‘HELP’
 
‘With Love’
 
‘ALWAYS’
 
‘Thank You’
 
‘Spirit I accept your guidance’
 
‘I forgive myself, I forgive you. I accept US  in human form.’
 
‘I need not be better than anyone else, but to be better than I used to be.’
 
‘I ask for transformation of what is in my control.’
 
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference.’
 
‘I am becoming more and more myself.’
 
‘Guide me to my best self. Let me say yes to possibilities. Let me feel hope.’
 
‘I ask for circles of healing, the heartbeat, the planet in the mantle of love.’
 
‘Let love heal.’
 
‘In the light, blessed be.”
 
‘I believe.’
 
‘Let me know when I am ready.’
 
‘I wish the best for all of us.’

‘Use me as your instrument.’
 
‘Let peace begin with me.’
 
‘From Spirit, Through Spirit, To Spirit.’
 
“Let Love In.’
 
‘One Love, One Heart.’
 
‘all for love, or not at all’
 
‘Thy will be done.”
 
Dear ones, Prayer is just as important as meditation. I think we forget this…. I know I did.  Meditation is listening to God, Prayer is speaking to God. Now is the time. We all want to be great, and truth be told greatness requires sacrifice. It requires doing things that others won’t or can’t do. GREAT HABITS ARE FORMED DAILY. The fact is, good habits require consistent commitment. Highly successful people have learned to develop good habits. Make the commitment to make it past the obstacles’, no matter how many times you need to go back to it and start again to reach new levels of success. This is something that can and will change your life for the better. Trust me, I’m pretty confident in this.

Please feel free to use one of the above prayers, or make your own. But do it consistently. You will see what I'm talking about.   So Dear Ones, when I say to you, I care not how you pray…… as long as you do, what I’m really saying is ‘please reconnect, we need you’.

All Love, xo Truly

Trigger Warring: sexual abuse, pcos, miscarriage, trauma 

​I did something different today. I held my body and told it I loved it. I stood in front of the mirror, naked and held all the parts society tells me aren’t loveable. I held my ponch that I hide with my fancy elastic underwear. I held my tired breasts that were resting on my belly. I held the jiggly part under my arms. I held the cellulite on my round bottom. I told every part that I loved it. I told every part that it is beautiful. That I was proud of it. AND I FUCKING MEANT IT.
 
Yesterday I posted about having an open dialogue with children about sex. It said this: If we teach children about sex, consensual and non consensual, they have the knowledge to decipher when something is uncomfortable and wrong and the courage to know that what happened isn’t shameful or their fault. Withholding information about sex from kids does not help.” @Keiajahhh. 
 
The first time I had sex taken from me I was 3. That happened a few times a year from that age until I was 11. That’s a long time to be taken from.  I was raped at 16. And then again at 20. And again at 23. Those are just the accounts that were violent. There were many times that I had sex because it was easier, not because I wanted too (consent under duress is not consent).
 
I have carried guilt and shame in this body almost my whole life. 41 -3 = 38 years.
 
Recently I have come to the conclusion that I deprive myself of pleasure. I won’t let myself enjoy anything to do with sex because I can’t trust myself to know its safe. I CAN’T TRUST MYSELF TO KNOW ITS SAFE. My logical brain tries to convince my body, but my body says no.  Sometimes I down right torture myself, or have had others do it in the past.
 
I also have a condition called Polly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS for short). We won’t talk about whether the abuse as a child brought this on (I suspect it did). I will tell you its painful. That I have cramping in my uterus more often than I’d like to admit. My periods are irregular. I suffer migraines and headaches regularly. I have had many miscarriages because my body doesn’t function properly.  These are just the physical symptoms. There is a list of mental/emotional symptoms that’s just as long (depression, anxiety, self-depreciation, lethargy….)
 
 I have disliked my body for a very long time.  Maybe that's why I like being a physical evidential medium so much. I'm not in my body very often.... spirit is and I am just a bystander.  
 
In recent discussions with my husband, friends and professionals, I have been told that: “……you need to love yourself……Bring yourself back to gratitude……. But you are beautiful Truly….. This body gave you three children….. you are alive because it (your body) wants to be healthy…. Your body holds the magic that you are…. You are loved unconditionally…. ”
 
I heard them. But didn’t assimilate the information.
 
This morning I read: ‘Today in science we learned that you can never gain cold, you can only have an absence of heat; and it made me think that maybe hatred doesn’t exist, and that there’s only an absence of love’ @lowkeat.
 
Maybe my body is just surviving in an absence of love. So today I loved it.

I am thankful that the Ontario Government is slowly lifting the bans on life. Being in lockdown is so incredibly painful for this empath. Not that I want to see all the people. Nope not at all. I’m happy in my hobbit hole thanks.  But I tend to feel the collective stagnancy, frustration and depression. My body feels the exhaustion while my brain watches others mind-numb with substance abuse,  and escape mechanisms. yuck. 

My Bio Dad’s birthday was on the 7th of June. He would have been 77 this year. 7 was his favourite number. 

It was also Father’s day this past Sunday.  27 years without him to hug and kiss. 23 years to celebrate with my cool step dad. 11 celebrated with my Kyle, my kiddo’s dad. 

It was National Indigenous Peoples Day on June 21st. It is the official day of celebration to recognize and honour the achievements, history and reich cultures of First Nations, Inuit and Metis people in Canada.  They keep finding unmarked  or maybe unrecorded graves of indigenous children at residential schools. Indigenous women continue to go missing without the support of our government to search for them, or even prevent this from happening. There are STILL Indigenous communities in this country WITHOUT CLEAN WATER.  These issues are painful. These are atrocities.  I am personally struggling with how to respond and what I can do. What is in my capacity. Where my vote, voice and money are going. 

I started looking for Office Space. Insert crying sobs here. Commercial space is so expensive. I could make compromises, and exceptions sure. I could rent temporary space. I could share space. But the truth of the matter is I know my work would suffer greatly for this. I’m just not willing to give less that my all. I have worked since the age of 14. This is the longest period of time in my life that I have not worked (not even my maternity leaves were this long).  I will continue to wait and ask the universe to guide me. When I can return to work, I will. 

I’ve recently had a flair in Polycystic Ovarian Cysts. I even had one burst, which is incredibly painful while happening but the after effects typically last about 2-3 weeks. It takes a while to heal the burns left from the acid on the vaginal walls.  Did you just grimace? I did while writing it.  When a women’s hormones are off her whole world is off. There is pain, rage, tears and eventually acceptance that there is nothing to be done but just keep living. No magic pill. No miracle cure. Just keep doing the best you can. And try your best not to be too hard on yourself. 

In my somatic trauma resolution practice I have been working on boundaries (internal and external). Looking at underlying beliefs that were given to me or naturally absorbed over the years. I’m consciously looking at what I know to be true, what is false and how that lands in my reality. 

When I started looking at my belief’s it became rather painful.  Who am I? like not just who is Truly Medium and what does she do….. but more like who is Truly? Not the titles, labels, classes or experiences. Not what I can do and what I have done. But WHO AM I? What do I believe in? What is love? Can it be limited? Should it be limited? What do I really think and feel about money? What is my value? What is my worth?  How much alone time is too much? How many people do I really want in my circles (friend circle, acquaintance circle, family circle)? How much stuff is too much?  What I think about these things is one thing. How I apply them in my physical reality and live an authentic life is another. 

There are so many ebbs and flows. There are other things in my life that I am working through too that I’m not ready or willing to share at this time.  They are heavy. I actively surrender them to the universe with love. 

I know none of you take it personally that I’m not posting much. I know you are loving and forgiving creatures. I’m really just writing this for me. Documenting where I am at this moment in time.  So enough wallowing. I’m going to go sit in the sun. and maybe even have a nap. Sleep is good. Loving you.  xo, T

P.S. If your my kid some time in the future and reading my posts, I have loved you with every breath I breathe. You are worth every struggle, every stress and every pain. You bring incredible joy to my life and I’m thankful for you everyday. Even on the days that I yell. Even on the days that you don’t listen. Even on the days when I need to run away for a while. I love you always. 


P.P.S.  Here is the link to Connect, Ground, Protect. If you’re an empath like me, you need this. This is what has saved me time and time again.  

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Hello Loves,

A dear friend asked me for guidance on how to do a burn release for tonights full moon. So I drafted this simple ceremony.  The full moon is the perfect time to let go of all that no longer serves your highest good.  I hope this script  helps you in whatever you choose to release tonight or in moons to come.

 Sending you all love, xoxo T 

P.S. If you have ever attended one of my Gather the Women Circles you will recognize the Fear Release ;) 



Full Moon Sacred Burn Release
Drafted by Truly Medium 
 
 
Before you Begin: 
 
Please Please Please be CAREFUL when working with fire. Be extremely diligent and have water or a fire extinguisher available to put it out at any point.  If you do not have a bon fire, you can use a caldron or a cast iron pot to burn your papers in. Again, be sure to be diligent in containing the heat and flame. I take no responsibility for what you do. 
 
Gather and place any crystals, jewelry, water or items you wish to energetically clear and recharge with the moon energy in the sacred space BEFORE you start. 
 
Bring a pen/pencil and note pad (possibly tissues) to help you release. 
 
Know that you can/should personalize this how you see fit. This is just a guideline to get you started. 
 

1. Clear the Space & Acknowledgements
2. Fear Release 
3. Amplifying Gratitude 
4. Clearing and Charging Items
5. Closing & Acknowledgements 

 
 
 

1. Clear the Space & Acknowledgements 

 
Gather around where the fire will be/is.  Allow a moment of silent reflection to recognize the creation of a sacred space.  Take at least 3 Belly Breaths to allow your body to acknowledge the change in energy. 
 
Step forward and light the fire or just become more aware of an already lit flame. 
 
Now is the time to throw loose dried sage leaves (cooking ones will do) into the fire or to pass around a sage stick to energetically clear the space. 
 
 
Speak:
 
Land acknowledgement: 
 
[Insert name of city/town] is located on the traditional territory of Indigenous peoples dating back countless generations. I want to show my respect for their contributions and recognize the role of treaty making in what is now Ontario. We wish to express gratitude to Mother Earth and for the resources we are using. We honour all the First Nation, Métis and Inuit people who have been living on the land since time immemorial and give thanks to them.  
 
Mother Moon, Goddess, Bringer of Light, thank you for your powerful blessings on this night.  I invoke you into my being and soul, fill up this vessel and make it whole. I stand before you in awe and love, I cherish the gifts you send from above. 
 
Sacred Flame Spirit, creator of heat and change, thank you for your presence and blessings on this night. I invoke you to bring forth all your magic. I stand in awe and love of your gifts. 
 
 

1. Fear Release

 
When fear overwhelms truth and love we call it pain. We have carried fear & pain for centuries in our cellular memory. These are barriers of love and wisdom.  We all have fears. We all have pain, resentment, anger and hurt. 
 
This is your opportunity to release and let the universe hear your request. Take a moment to get in touch with these feelings. Close your eyes and let your soul surrender to these feelings and emotions. (Breathe)
Let them be written. Allow them to bleed onto the paper. Write what you feel. Write what you cannot say. Write what needs to be released. Write what no longer serves a purpose.  Write the burdens your heart carries.
 
(give a few minutes)
 
When you are ready, fold it up (accordion style burns best). Approach the fire & say: 
 
Sacred Flame Spirit, I ask you to help me release and recycle this energy into a positive motion to help me move forward on my life path. I choose to let go of all that no longer serves my highest and greatest good. 
 
Mother Moon I ask that you help me to ease the past so that I may grow into the future with grace and confidence. 
 
Burn your list in the fire. Return to your seat. 
 

1. Amplifying Gratitude 

 
Dear one, fear and love cannot exist in the same vibration/frequency. 
 
Pick up your note pad again and write all you are thankful for. Write all things big and small. As you do you will begin to feel an energy shift. You will be standing in the vibration/energy of love and abundance. 
 
When you feel it is complete, you can burn it releasing it to the universe as well or fold it up and put it in your wallet or tucked away in a special spot as a reminder. 
 
If you choose to burn it fold it up (accordion style burns best). Approach the fire & say: 
 
Sacred Flame Spirit, I ask you to help me amplify the love and gratitude on this paper. Help me release this magic into the universe.
 
Mother Moon I ask that you help me to create and disperse more love throughout my life there by affecting all the world. 
 

1. Clearing & Charging Items

 
Touch or place your hand over your crystals, jewelry, tools, water or items. 
 
Say: 
 
Mother Moon I ask you to help me release any stagnant energy that is present here. Release anything that no longer serves my highest good. I ask that you replace it with your light and love.  So mote it be. 
 
 

1. Closing & Acknowledgements

 
With 3 belly breaths allow yourself to become centered.
 
Say: 
 
Mother Moon, Goddess, Bringer of Light, thank you for your powerful blessings on this night. I stand before you in awe and love, I cherish the gifts you send from above.
 
Sacred Flame Spirit, creator of heat and change, thank you for sharing your magic tonight. I stand in love and awe of the gifts you have presented here. 
 
Mother Earth thank you for the opportunity to learn and grow with you. I stand in love and gratitude for all you give. 
 
As above so below, let in the light and let it grow. (Amen or ‘if it is for me, so mote it be’ or any other closing you see fit). 

I write this more for myself than for you. I need to lay this to rest. I need to bury it so that my ego will step back and I can move forward.

I am angry at those who misuse Spiritual Healing of any kind (Mediumship, energy work, hands on healing, herbal remedies, meditation/guided imagery, and etc.). I am enraged at those who are insincere and inauthentic in their practices and teaching.

This piece is written as an opinion piece. It is not gospel. I am no guru. I am but a weary servant of the divine, who grows increasingly exhausted by the façade of ‘Spiritualism’ and ‘Enlightenment’.     

Just because ‘you can’ does not mean ‘you should’.

Do you know how many times someone who is spiritually inclined comes up to me and says ‘I’m a Medium too’ and when I ask them how they verify who they are getting their information from, I get a blank stare.  Too often. (side note if you can’t verify who your speaking to, then you are a psychic not a Medium. Medium’s give proof of survival/identity).

Do you know how many times someone has asked me for a certificate for a workshop or class I teach? Nearly every time I teach.  Most workshops are 5 hours in length…. And then they want me to ‘certify’ that they can ‘teach’ it after only 5 hours….. Do you see a problem here? I do.

I am tired. I am Angry. This is my ROAR.

I am so tired of people trying to make a FAST buck in the world of spirituality and healing. I am exhausted by seeing so many inauthentic ‘practitioners’, ‘therapists’ & ‘teachers’.  Am I perfect? No. But be damned sure you will know what I know OR more than me, before I ‘certify’ you. Why? Because if you don’t have integrity in your work you don’t have much. Integrity is defined by having the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.

Trust cannot be bought. Especially when it comes to healing. I am incredibly careful in who I see and who I refer others to.  Do you know why? Because it is easy to get fucked up. It is easy to not follow your truth. It is easy to live another’s life or dream or think you have healed when you haven’t. I know because I’ve done it. I’ve also done it to others quite unintentionally. Which is why I have stepped back from teaching for a time.

When you are ‘certified’ you have someone to fall back on. Someone to turn to with questions. Someone with more experience or different insight.  Someone who showed you all they know and trusts that you will take great care with what they have taught you. They have faith that you will, with your whole heart, do what is best for all intended, not just yourself (well that’s if your ‘teacher’ has integrity).  Unless the certificate you have says ‘participated’, meaning that the teacher will vouch that you spent X number of hours studying, which may only be classroom time). 

Do you know I have NEVER ‘certified’ another instructor for CCMBA? Nope. Not once.
Did you know I have only ever endorsed or promoted a handful of other people that I FEEL will teach/present CCMBA properly. One of which is my mother who took it the same time as I did 20 years ago. These people have such genuine healing hearts. They don’t do it for the money. In all things there should be an appropriate energy exchange and the world recognizes money as that energy. So yes they charge for their time, energy & expertise. But they do it to heal the world. They do it with integrity. Are they perfect? No. But they do it with love. They do it for the same reasons I do it.

I could 'teach' other classes such as: Energetic Clearing Space & Objects,  the Black Pearl Healing Technique, Past Life Regression for Instructors, Hands of Healing, just to name a few.  I do not because I know I don't have enough experience in it yet. I know I can't answer the questions that will arise when teaching others how to do it. My integrity says I am not ready. 

I hate calling myself a ‘master’ in any subject, and yet I am looked to as one in the local mediumship world. I always feel that there is more to learn. But this is exactly why I am a master, because I have fallen more than the student has ever tried.

So, let’s talk about what to look for in a healer or teacher shall we?

Look for credentials. Yes, who taught them? Is there a governing body? How often do they re-certify? When was the last time they taught? How long have they practiced/been teaching? What do they love about their work? What do they hate about it?

Look for someone who is humble. Someone who knows they are not perfect but is also confident about the subject they are teaching or modality they work in. Confident, not cocky. Ego is ugly.

Look for someone who is kind. Kind when they don’t need to be. Yes, I know that this is hard to catch. Watch how they treat others or how they talk when others are not present.

Look for someone with a passion for what they do. It shouldn’t be just a ‘job’ for ‘Money’.  They should be pulled and wanting to constantly improve themselves and how they live.

Look for someone who respects traditions. There is a damn good reason why it’s a tradition and unless you have a really valid reason for changing it you should respect it and trust the creator’s reason for having it.  Don’t let your EGO of ‘knowing better’ get in the way. Simply put, an original is usually the best and most authentic version.

Look for love. Look for love in the way the person carries themselves. Hadakiel, The Guardian Angel of Judgemet, says if you demand perfection from yourself you will demand it from others and ruin your relationship with them. Strive for progress not perfection. If I can love myself with all my faults, I can love you too.

You know, one of the reasons why I stayed with the Spiritual church for so long is because I believed it could become a regulating body for Mediums. Just as lawyers have The Law Society of Ontario, and dentists have the ‘Royal College of Dental Surgeons of Ontario’. I wanted an industry standard.  I now know that the church is much too political for that.  But it was a dream of mine… to have someone other than ourselves to keep us all accountable. To make sure we were practicing with compassion and care.

I have been asked to teach mediumship time and time again. I want to. I do. I have had others tell me that there will be ‘Truly Medium Mediums’ in the near future. But then I wonder, who would I trust with my name? I hold my standards pretty high when it comes to my work. I work honestly. I work with care and love.

When I became a Spiritualist minister I took an oath to “…honour truth, value virtue, and goodness and will set these above worldly or material positions. I will respect individuality and will speak of people in their absence as I would in their presence. I will recognize mediumship as a sacred faculty to be exercised for the upliftment and progress of the human race…”

Yes, I’m still working on it. I am human.  Progress over perfection. But the fact that this is what I believe….. this is what I have pledged myself to........Has your teacher done that?  Do they have a decree or have they taken an oath?

By the way, that quoted bit above is from my ‘ministerial obligation’ which hangs on my self proclaimed ‘wall of shame’ (wall of certificates). My husband made me put them up in my office so that my clients could see that I am actually educated. I tell him all the time that people don’t want to see that.  They just want me to talk to their dead people. Which for the most part is true, but every once in a while, someone asks how I got so good at it………. Experience! That’s how I got so good. I practiced so much that I would become the best. I have failed… Oh man! I have failed and big. But I also have a hunger to grow. I’m always thirsty for knowledge. I created my own conference, so I didn’t have to travel out of province to learn!!!! (which incidentally failed at making me any material profit, but brought me and reminded me of the value of friends).

I guess what I’m trying to say with my soap box rant is, ‘Check their motive before you commit to learning from someone or to accepting their help in trying to heal your traumas’.

Thank you for reading the writings of a crazy lady who talks to the dead people.
 Yours, Truly xo
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P.S. If you are angry with me and my opinion ask yourself why.

As I sit here in my office thinking about the first Christmas without my dad, I remember thinking that no one told me it was going to be hard. Really, really, hard. I was 13, and although I was used to not seeing him on Christmas eve (as he was usually on night shift), I would typically see him in the morning, and we would open presents before he went to bed.
 
The year he died my mother took us to Florida. Even now it is pretty cool to be able to say I spent Christmas in Babe Ruth’s Florida beach house one year. But we all know I’d trade being able to say that for having my dad for one more Christmas.
 
The point of me telling you all this is that I want you to remember to go easy on yourself. Allow yourself space and grace for grieving. Allow time for you. That Christmas was really quiet for my family. We didn’t push ourselves to celebrate much, but we were together. Sometimes all we need is quiet togetherness. 
 
Below are some ideas in how to navigate the holiday season as you continue your life without your person(s). You might not like any of them, or they may all speak to you. I am sharing them with you in hopes that you remember that you are loved, and still needed.
 
 
Holiday Survival for the Grieving
 

1. Please DO NOT Apologize for grieving. You are allowed to feel all the feelings and let me tell you they will likely show up at the most inopportune times. It’s ok. Remember grief is love with nowhere to go.  
2. Take a time out! You can and may want to excuse yourself to go get some air if you are at a gathering or you may want to skip it all together. That is ok. Do what you need. Try not to get caught up in the expectations of others.
3. Re-examine your priorities. What needs to be done vs. what ‘should’ be done. Don’t over book yourself with too much.
4. Don’t abandon healthy habits. Still go to the gym. Still go see your therapist or counsellor. Take care of your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs.
5. Talk about your person(s). Remember them. Share the love you have for them with others. You have wonderful memories that are always best shared.
6. Try a new tradition in honour of your loved one. Simple ones include; 
   
   1. volunteering at a local shelter or soup kitchen
      
   2. collecting toys or warm clothing for others in need
      
   3. buying a meal or coffee for someone unexpectedly
      
   4. sending a note of encouragement to an unexpected recipient (#LoveLetters2Strangers for example)
      
   5. sponsoring a needing sports team or group in their name

 
Take time out to meditate. The ‘Loved Ones’ recorded guided meditation is my favourite one to talk to my dad: https://www.trulymedium.com/free-meditation.html

Dear Heart, please remember love never dies. They are always with you. Sending you love & warmth for this holiday season and always. Xo T
 

Giggle, Hey! Sorry not sorry for swearing. I do that. My mom hates it, but its part of my style. She got over it. You will too. 

So, the energies are crazy lately.  As an Empath, which if your reading this blog, you likely are. The short and sweet definition of empath is someone who is sensitive and feels the energy of others (people, animals, nature, etc). More and more of us are starting to acknowledge or recognize that we are sensitive and growing more and more as time goes on.  It means that we are receiving more information on a vibrational level, and yet we may not be consciously ready to hear it. So I invite you to meditate. I invite you to refocus, and surrender to listening to the universe.  Did you know that the entire purpose of our life here on the planet it to learn? and as doing such we must embrace change. This will presented to us as an opportunity. We can choose to pay attention and listen to what is being presented, trusting that it is truth and we are safe. OR we can choose to ignore and stay stuck, destined to repeat this lesson over again until it is learned.  DEAR ONES, BE BRAVE. TRUST YOUR HEART. LISTEN WITH YOUR HEART. You will not be steered in the wrong direction. To listen you may need more than meditation though.... you may need to adjust your self care routine... or maybe even fucking embrace one already!!!!  Self care is so very important and can show up for you in your life in a multitude of ways. You may want to do some energy healing like reiki or therapeutic touch, possibly some massage therapy or exercise. It often looks like having a dynamite conversation of #realtalk with a close friend. Sometimes self care is having a damn good orgasm, no i don't care how you get there, and yes I did write this. lol.  You see my love, without self care we aren't operating at full capacity. when that happens we end up missing things. We miss small moments of connection. We miss signs. We miss the love that is being bestowed upon us every moment of every day. We miss it. 

​One of the reasons why I started the Gather the Women's groups is because I needed it. My schedule doesn't allow for much girl time. Truth be told, its work, family, meditate/pray, work, family, meditate/pray, work.....  you see where I'm going with that. Sounds familiar right. This is not good. WE need time to play. So, now I have on Night a month where I know I'll get to play!!!!! And if your female, (sorry gents), You should join me. I may be the organizer but I'm not in charge. Ladies speak and are heard. We acknowledge and confirm feelings. We offer advice when asked. We support and lift each other with out judgement and with love. Its kind of incredible if I do say so myself! I have been asked to come to other communities to teach it so that it can grow. I'm honoured and humbled to help others connect. Its so cool to watch the ripple effect.

Anyway, It had been way too long since I blogged & wanted to reach out to you to tell you that your not alone in feeling like a hot mess. I'm right here with  you. And, its ok. Just don't stay there. :)  If your on facebook at all I just finished a live guided meditation. Go give it a try. It may just be what you need for your self care today. 

I love you so very much. I'll connect again soon. xoxo T 

Much about working with energy is about having the right intention. With that in mind I write to YOU!

Dear One, full moons are full of amazing energy. Not only can it clear stagnant or negative energy, but it can infuse new life into your crystals, jewellery and life. Simply place your items under the moon light, outside is best, but if it is winter months or you live in a very busy area, you may want to try inside. Put them out at sun down and bring them in at sunrise.... or whenever you get up. You yourself can also sleep under the full moon too. 

I am currently on a healing journey of sorts and reached for this magical meditation to help me manifest the way I wanted my life to move forward from this point on. I have included the Mother Earth Manifestation Meditation at the bottom of this post. It will only be for a limited time.  It is 13 minutes long, but incredibly powerful. Don't worry if you don't currently have a direction or life goals. Your Intuitive mind/higher power will show you what you really desire or what your next step is. As with all my meditations all I ask is that you LISTEN & BREATHE. Eyes open or closed, sitting or laying down, totally up to YOU. 

Enjoy & Happy Full Moon Lovies <3 xo Truly

Hello my Lovies, I hope you are well and I am sorry that I have taken so long to write to you again. A few things have come up for me recently that I wanted to address with you.
 
I know many of you are frustrated with the amount of time that it takes to get into see me for a one on one visit. As a small business owner it is a nice problem to have, but it is still a problem. I am one person and I have three little children under the age of seven. As any parent knows children rely on you very heavily at this stage in their life. I am so grateful to have them in my world. Because of this I am not willing to jeopardize my time with them and this is why I no longer work on the weekends. I do hope that you understand.
 
Now one of the other things that contributes to the long wait is that I can only do so many readings in a day. I have not addressed this up until now. I am becoming more of a physical medium or channel. What that means is Spirit now enters into my physical body and shares space when I work. It is amazing to see the interactions between my clients in the Spirit.  I am conscious when I work and still very much aware, but I find that I don't always have absolute physical control of my body. As you can imagine sharing space in your physical being with someone else can be a little taxing to say the least. With that in mind I can only spend so many hours in that mental and physical realm in one day.
 
This also brings me to another key question within my work which is “why are my sessions so long?’ Well I want you, my client, to have the very best. I want you to walk out of my front door feeling confident, secure and having all of your questions answered. That takes time. Yes, I could do 20 minute readings, but I choose not to because I know it's almost never enough time. Other Mediums may only make one connection where as I try to make upwards of three. My sessions run 60-90 minutes. Rarely do I ever finish with a client around the 60 minute mark. More than 90% of my sessions us the whole 90 minutes.
 
Some clients may think that this is only a part-time job for me because most Mediums tend to only work part time or have some other career. This is not my situation. I am dedicated to being a Medium full time and have been so for many years. I take my work very seriously. I work very hard not only for you, but for the opportunity to share the messages from the other side as I do believe it is a wonderful blessing to be able to do so.
 
I hope that you recognize that I love what I do and that for me, although I may not be able to remember our conversations, you are not just another number to me. When you sit down with me I'm here for you whole heartedly to help you understand what has happened with your loved ones, communicate what your angels are trying to share with you, and how your spirit guides are trying to help you towards your life goals.
 
Sending you an abundance ​of love, xo Truly