So since this blog was written, I have lost the opportunity of 3 more children, making it 9 in total. Sigh, yes, even though I know they are with me, my heart still hurts. But I like to think it hurts a little less because I know they are with me. I hope you find comfort, whether it is because of this information or not doesn't matter, just that you find peace. Much love, xo T
"The most beautiful people we have know are those who have know defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen." Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
There can be many reasons why a child dies. It is NEVER FAIR to the parent. The spirit of a child has free will, just as you and I do. All manifestations of life do.
The soul of a child exists well before actual conception. Each soul picks their parents (I have written of this before in a blog about personal responsibility). We choose our parents because they can help us learn the lessons we need to grow. We choose our mother 1st. I like to think its because she literally 'grows' us in her body & then nourishes our body with her milk. That's just my thoughts. We choose our father just the same as our mother. We will learn many things from him & he is just as important.
The Dictionary defines Miscarriage as the spontaneous or unplanned expulsion of a fetus from the womb before it is able to survive independently. Still birth being defined as the birth of an infant that has died in the womb (strictly, after having survived through at least the first 28 weeks of pregnancy, earlier instances being regarded as abortion or miscarriage). I like to think of the definition of both of these tragedy's as the loss of a beautiful opportunity to learn and love.
After my 2nd miscarriage (as I told no one of the 1st), I was extremely distraught. I sought guidance from the one person who has always supported me, my mother. She gave me the explanation that I have heard from many other spiritual people. "There was something wrong with the baby, and it was called home". Seemed simple enough, but I wanted more. I started looking at the process of life. How we got here. After many conversations with my spirit guides and loved ones that I have lost I was reminded that we all have free will. Our free will begins before conception, when we chose to experience life (on our terms). I have found that in most cases of miscarriage, when the spirit was choosing its life lessons, they chose to few. These life lessons were completed all in a short time, without leaving the mother's womb. If we go back to the model that most spirits choose 25 life lessons or themes to work on while here, and then we look at the life of a spirit that ended before it was 'able to survive independently', we know that it most likely only choses 2 or 3 life lessons. Most of the time, this is done on purpose. The spirit needs to experience one or two specific lessons in order to grow. The most common of those lessons is Unconditional Love. Once these lessons have been completed, the spirit is then given the opportunity to go 'home' and start again. Having the free will to choose as many lessons he or she desires.
Now, abortion is a bit of a different story. Because each spirit chooses its parents, & can see the life path of those parents, it knows that there is a very good chance that it will not have the opportunity to fully manifest in this lifetime. This comes down to the free will of the mother. This spirit would have known that there was the possibility that the mother would not be able to bring it to fruition for whatever reason.
How we lost the child really has less to do with us & more to do with that child's spiritual journey. Most mothers hurt emotionally more than physically after this loss. My belief is that the spirit of that child stays in the aura or etheric field of the mother until such time that she can manifest a new opportunity for it to return. Unfortunately sometimes it takes a few opportunities before the spirit can fully manifest. It took 4 opportunities for my Tom to manifest. It took 3 for Graham & I still have a spirit in waiting.
What happens when the spirit cannot manifest (the mother does not become pregnant again or is unable to carry to term)? The spirit stays with the mother (in the auric field), until such time that she returns home.
Essentially ladies, our babies never leave us.
Now, being a mother & having experienced this loss, in my mediumship practice I rarely bring this topic up as I know how painful it can be. I never know what or who to expect when I work, but I rarely hear from these spirits. If they do come forward they don't speak, they just show themselves (think of a bubble of light or orb). This type of loss is very common, but because of its delicate nature, most mediums will not bring it up. Mediums are funny creatures, most being extremely sensitive & empathetic, therefore they don't want to stir the emotional pot too much.
Anyway, I certainly hope that I have helped some of you heal & have given you a better understanding of this delicate topic. As always I welcome your thoughts & comments. Love & Light, Truly
"Look at your track record: You have survived 100% of everything in your life so far. So there is a very high chance you are going to survive anything that's to come." ~ Unknown