I have missed you. I have been under the weather, and as such was unable to work for a time. I am doing much better and back at it. Below is my annual 'Mother's Day Lecture' that I will be giving later this morning at the Divine Light Spiritual Foundation. I do hope you enjoy it and welcome your comments/feedback. Happy Mother's Day. God Bless you. xoxo Love & Light, Truly
Happy Mother’s Day. (May 13, 2012)
You are kind.
You are smart.
You are important.
Those words are what every parent wants to instill in their children. To be kind is to love, the purest of all emotions. To be smart is to recognize that we have a choice, and that by being alive, we have chosen to grow. You are important. Something we forget so easily about our selves. When you are important, you remember that you are accountable for your thoughts, feelings and actions, and that no-one can take these away from you.
After becoming a parent myself, I read an article in a ‘parenting magazine’. It was an article on Fathers and what they thought of fatherhood. Christian Jacobs, is a pretty important guy with Nickelodeon (a kids television production company), and the co-creator of Yo Gabba Gabba (one of Thomas’s favorite shows). He wrote something that has not left me since the day of reading it. He was asked ‘what did you learn about being a father from your own dad?” The answer may shock you, or really hit home as it did for me:
“He showed me that as a parent, it’s time to forget about yourself and do what’s best for your children. No success in life could compensate for being a failure as a parent.”
What an incredible statement. Before my Thomas was born, Kyle and I had conversations about what kind of parents we were going to be. What hopes and dreams we had not only for our children, but with our children. I remember him telling me how years ago he turned down a very prestigious career move, so that he wouldn’t be put in the position of having to choose between his work and his family. So many people in the corporate world have had to make that choice. One of IBM’s motto's is ‘Family First’. This is something we do in our family. We put each other first.
I have had a few difficult choices in my life, and as difficult as it can be, I thank God for those opportunities. I thank God for the opportunity to live. I know God has big things in store for me. I have faith that I am being looked after. I know that there will be more challenges in my life. I also know that I was given Kyle and Thomas for a reason. I am thankful for the strength I’ve been given.
Nothing about my life’s been easy. But nothings’ gonna keep me down. They give me reason to carry on.
I have been pregnant 5 times. I’ve only been able to hold one baby in my arms. On so many occasions I have asked the age old question: ‘why’. I know, that God doesn’t answer the ‘why’s. He only answers the ‘how’s’ and the ‘when’s, and its always done in divine order.
Each baby that I have been given, has been a blessing to me. I can not tell a lie, I do miss the opportunities of them. But I know in my heart that they have received the love and the care that they so much deserved. I am grateful to help them with what ever lessons they were working on in that brief time. I am glad that I was able to give them the unconditional love that they so deserved.
The way you grow after you have made the decision to be a parent is almost in-measurable. I once heard a quote that talked about the decision to have a child is the decision to let your heart walk around out side of your body on its own, with out any regard for you. (lol). Never has a truer statement been made.
I love my Thomas to pieces. He really is my whole world. Its funny you know, I don’t think you realize how much you are loved by your parents (biological or not), until you become a parent yourself. It’s amazing how you cry when your child cries, and you laugh when they laugh (even when you know you really shouldn’t be laughing because it’s sending the wrong message). They so quickly become a piece of us.
I’ve had quite a few parents come to me in the last few years, looking for advice to help with their children. The thing we always seem to forget is that our children are us, but a shorter version. They are smarter than us, they are faster than us and they can certainly out do us on any given day. We forget that they are not children, but little adults. They are miniature people who deserve all the respect and love we can give them.
When I talk about showing a child respect and love, I’m really talking about teaching them what we all need to re-learn. We need to re learn that:
We are Kind
We are Smart
And we are Important
When we have the fundamentals down, life can really become easy. When you are struggling with a challenge, all you need do is ask yourself these things; Are you acting out of kindness & love? Are you smart enough to understand that you will be held accountable for your actions? Will you lead a life of Integrity and Importance?
We all struggle with those things. We all struggle with them because we are human, and on a pretty steep learning curve. Thankfully we have parents to show us the way.
We have parents that show us that we have goodness in us. We are merciful. We have compassion and understanding. We are the light and the energy and the joy in the world. We have forgiveness, patience, strength and courage. We can comfort, teach and heal others. We have the deepest wisdom and we know the highest truth. We are the greatest peace and the grandest love. We are these things. And luckily enough, we have parents to show us the way. How they chose to show us maybe a different story, but they have chosen. And don’t forget you chose them too.
Its funny, even now as I write this, I know that I am living in the state of fear. I can choose to manifest fear in my life. I can choose to let the fear (false evidence appearing real) in, and take over. Or I can choose to carry on. I can choose to live in love.
After everything that has happened to me, I have come to a decision. I choose to follow my parents. I choose Love. I choose to carry on. I choose to show my boy how life really is. I choose to be Kind. I choose to be Smart. & I choose to be Important.
I am able to choose all of these things, because someone chose to have me. Thanks Mum.