Today's blog inspiration comes from a lecture I gave back in November.... I hope you enjoy it.
This past year (2010) I offended one of my friends on Facebook by making the statement 'Everything in life is a Choice.' Believe me, it was not my intention, but with out offending her, I never would have dug deeper into that statement. I really believed it to be a true and accurate statement, but to really express it properly; I needed to dig further..... yes, I'm talking about FREE WILL. But before we get into that, let's go back to the beginning.
You are spirit. You are in heaven before you are born. You say to the God of Your Understanding or to the Universe, I want to grow & evolve. You know the best way to learn, is to experience for yourself.... So you stand in front of a giant black board (or white board) that is covered with words like: Integrity, Honesty, Humility, Loss, Unconditional Love, Forgiveness, Pain, Respect, Trust, Acceptance..... etc. Some people pick 15, other people pick 45, but the average person picks out approximately 25 words. Those 25 words are the focus of 25 lessons that you want to learn while spending time on earth. Then you look at the candidates for your mother (seeing the major events in her life), and you pick one. From her partners, you pick your father (seeing the major events in his life also). Then you are born! You start growing up and all the while, you're learning the lessons. You are living your life, and God or the Universe hands you a scenario. How you act, and react is completely up to you (free will), and therefore you may or may not learn the lesson that was intended. You see, we are in charge of WHAT we learn, we just don't get to pick HOW we learn it. That is up to God or the Universe to decide.
Now, you ask, 'what happens if you didn't learn the lesson?'. Good question! Stop here, just a moment. Can you think of anything in your life right now that is REPEATING? It may not be exactly the same, but the main lesson seems similar? Or, is it worst than the last time? It's harder this time, isn't it? Right..... So you repeat the lessons until you get it.... and sometimes it takes lifetimes (yes plural) to get it. You can be repeating something for more than one lifetime, several in fact (but that's another story) and each time the lesson gets harder and harder. The whole point of life is the lessons. We want to evolve and better ourselves, and the best way to do that is to experience the lessons. It really is all about the experiences.
So that brings me to the law of Choices. It all begins with what we chose before we got here. We no longer have any control over what we picked, but we do have control over how we react or act. All we can do now is choose to make the best of it... choose to grow, to love, to connect, to give. Can you GROW into your current lessons? or will you turn your back, become bitter and resentful? Choosing to grow is not easy, we all know this, but it is necessary for survival. It comes down to Personal Responsibility. "We are responsible for our own progression or the unfolding of self. When we can accept that how we act or react to any given situation or experience determines the outcome of that experience, we have taken the first step toward accepting personal responsibility. No one can force us, or make us do anything against our will. we have been given free will to accept or reject any of life's experiences that come our way. When we understand this principle fully, we stop looking for external sources to take the responsibility for anything that has happened or will happen to us. When we start acting instead of reacting to situations or experiences, than we have resumed responsibility for our lives and can start directing it according to our own desires. Regardless of the situations in which we find ourselves, whether they are of our own creation or outside circumstances which have drawn us into them, how they affect us becomes our responsibility. We must take this sense of responsibility into all areas of our lives, for the same rule applies, whether it involves family, community or universal situations. In the end, it will not matter what others think of us that will count, but what we think of ourselves. " (The Seven Principles of Spiritualism).
Now, what about WHAT you picked to learn...... I've had many people ask me 'Why did I choose this?' or "what is the point of this lesson?" . I may be able to give you a direction on what it could be, but really, only you know the answer. You need to search your soul and ask it those questions. As they say, 'God doesn't answer the How or the Why, he just answers the Who, and When, and the answer is almost always YOU & NOW.'
When I tell this to someone who is a parent, they often struggle with it. Being a parent myself, I know why. We (parents) tend to want to take away pain or grief from our children. What we don't realize is that this child, just like us, CHOSE these lessons, and by taking away the pain, grief or personal responsibility, we are taking away their lesson. What happens when we don't learn the lesson? Right, we REPEAT it! (heavy, right?). So, as much as you may feel like you are helping and protecting your child, spiritually, you may be stunting their growth! Just like us they need to experience to learn and grow.
When we have learned all that we wish to learn, we can choose to go home. Some of you have heard me say that we have 5 (or so) opportunities to 'go home'. It is up to us when we decide to leave this earth. But the point being, maybe the person only had a 2 or 3 lessons to learn, and therefore decided to 'go home', what we would consider, early. On the other hand, you may have fulfilled all of the lessons you intended to learn, and now you're just enjoying. Even death is a choice. (this again, is a topic for another day).
Anyway, the long and the short of it is..... Everything in Life is a Choice. It's the perfect opportunity to take responsibility for where you are now and to passionately participate with intention, focusing on being in the present!
Thanks for reading. Love & Light,